What to do if your child has poor stress resistance?

Today's parents enroll their children in various special classes when they are young, so they are under a lot of pressure from an early age. Coupled with the fact that some children have poor ability to withstand pressure, parents are very distressed. In fact, parents should properly train their children's ability to withstand stress. Let them suffer more from an early age so that they can withstand pressure from all sides when they grow up. This article introduces methods to improve children's ability to withstand stress. Parents who want to learn can take a look.

To improve children's ability to withstand stress, you can start from the following three aspects:

First, assign tasks to children and let them suffer a little.

Setting tasks for children does not mean giving them tasks that they are completely unable to complete or are not competent for. Instead, it means giving them tasks that they can do well within their abilities or make some creative and breakthrough achievements. For example, when doing homework, he can finish it within the specified time; when taking a trip, he can be the one to plan the entire process; when developing a habit, he can learn to persevere through hardships.

Children should also understand that if they want to get something or achieve a goal, they must learn to fight for it, plan, and work hard on their own; in this process, willfulness, selfishness, fear of hardship, and fear of fatigue will prevent them from completing their plans. But we should encourage children to bravely express their feelings about what happened, and help them sort themselves out in time; let them believe that in a family, love and trust are eternal and there are no reasons or additional conditions.

To cultivate children's ability to withstand stress, it is not about actively attacking them and destroying their confidence; rather, parents should gradually let go and watch them face the situation independently in the process of facing the situation together with them.

Second, teach children to learn to wait and have self-confidence.

Facing things calmly and waiting patiently are the best weapons to resist stress in adversity. A famous "delay" experiment used a long time to prove that children who are able to wait will definitely have a different future. Therefore, learning to wait is a major ability to withstand pressure; learning to wait must be cultivated from an early age. When babies drink milk, they have to wait for the milk to cool down to avoid being scalded; there is only one Christmas a year when you can see Santa Claus...

Children have expectations, but are able to wait, and this process is complementary to improving their self-confidence. Only when you have enough self-confidence can you be sure that all your waiting is worthwhile, and the gains after waiting can build your child's self-confidence!

When it comes to cultivating children's self-confidence, trust and letting go are key conditions, and being able to provide help in a timely manner is an auxiliary condition in the early stages. Dare to let children try and give them full trust. Even if children make mistakes or fail, give them timely encouragement and active help, and face it with the right attitude. Failure is nothing. The process is very important. By constantly summarizing the process of failure, you will eventually succeed. These can help children gain full self-confidence imperceptibly.

Third, help children understand forgiveness and face failure correctly.

Forgiveness is one of a person's greatest virtues. Knowing how to forgive others means being open-minded and magnanimous; knowing how to forgive yourself means you won’t be too stubborn; knowing how to forgive means you have a huge potential energy! Children are always pure and genuine, and they cannot tolerate any flaws, so they often unconsciously magnify the shortcomings of others, and some children even continue to magnify their own shortcomings. At this time, it is crucial to know how to forgive and let go! Only magnanimous people can have a wise life.

Failure is also something that everyone will face. Therefore, it is very important to understand failure. Encountering temporary difficulties and setbacks are not failures. The one who can completely defeat yourself and make yourself feel like a true failure is yourself. When children are stuck in a dead end, parents should help and encourage them to find the real reasons and let them believe that the world is a beautiful place and that life is about constantly facing challenges. It is a basic attitude to be neither arrogant when you win nor discouraged when you lose. Of course, celebrating victories and summarizing failures are also good practices. Not being afraid of facing failure and happily welcoming success are equally important.

Summary: Some parents will take care of all the problems their children encounter in their growth, so that their children will not feel the pressure from their hearts since childhood. However, children will grow up one day, and they will definitely have to face and withstand the pressure on their own and not be easily defeated by the pressure. Parents should let their children solve the pressure by themselves when they are young. It does not mean that you should not care about them, but that you must have a correct guidance. I hope the above three methods can give parents some inspiration.