Nine abilities that influence children's lives

1. The ability to accept failure is the bridge to success

In a group society, the chances of losing to others are inherently greater than the chances of winning. Therefore, rather than putting the goal first and working hard, it is more important to have the mentality of trying your best in everything. Please don’t forget that when you are afraid of your child’s failure, you are depriving your child of more opportunities for growth. We can no longer be obsessed with being the first because of our fear and tie our children’s hands and feet invisibly. Instead, we should cultivate children’s ability to stand up and move forward again after falling.

We must remember that a child who does not have the ability to fail will never be successful in life.

2. Philosophical thinking ability - the first step to cultivate a child who can think

Think philosophically, always be skeptical, don't take everything for granted, don't look at things too intuitively, don't "go with your feelings", but use theory as the basis to explain what you encounter. If you don't gain anything from thinking about the unfamiliar, it's not because your IQ is not enough.

3. The ability to perceive happiness – Cultivate the ability to make yourself happy

Since being an official is not happiness and getting rich is not happiness, then what is happiness? My teacher told me: Happiness does not lie in how much you get, but in the ability to perceive happiness! A person who does not have the ability to perceive happiness will not be happy no matter how much he gets; a person who can perceive happiness is happy no matter how ordinary he is.

4. Leadership ability: the first condition of leadership is to have a heart that cares for others

Leaders are not born but cultivated, and before the age of 3 is a critical period for children's emotional development. Therefore, parents should not only think about developing their children's intelligence at this time and miss the best period for learning to communicate and observe others. Children who learn to communicate will be liked by their peers whether in kindergarten or school, and will definitely have many friends around them, which can lay the foundation for good interpersonal relationships in the future. Even if you don't become a leader, you will become a popular person. Leadership skills need to be strengthened through training, and an aspiring leader needs opportunities to hone his leadership skills. Let your children join sports teams and Boy Scouts. Extracurricular groups and other community organizations, where they will gain experience in dealing with people. However, children should also be allowed to strive for leadership within their areas of interest.

5. Reading ability: Cultivate a vision that can see into the world

In the process of leading your children on the road of reading, parents should remember that you only have two major tasks: the first is to make your children like reading; the second is to teach your children how to read.

6. Communication skills - the cradle of overall basic skills

The road of life is tortuous. No matter how smart or outstanding a person is, without the support of others, it is unlikely that he will achieve outstanding results. Without the support of others, it is impossible to find a way to gain higher wisdom. Smart parents should understand that if a child feels that communication is a pleasure, and can communicate with anyone with ease and comfort, and is in harmony between body and mind, and inside and outside, his social circle will become larger and larger, and his future will be more and more compatible with society. However, smart parents should know that no matter what, children need the understanding, help and support of their family.

7. English language skills: the basic condition for survival in the global village era

Language acquisition is mainly achieved by obtaining a large amount of comprehensible input, and listening is the most important channel for obtaining comprehensible language input. Therefore, when tutoring children in English, sufficient attention should be paid to the development of their listening cognitive strategy abilities.

8. Economic capabilities - the key to a better future

9. Self-control: a powerful force of self-control

In the journey of life, in order to achieve your goals, you may have to do some things you don’t want to do and give up some things you are deeply obsessed with, so you will feel a certain sense of "constraint". However, for the sake of life and goals, we cannot try to get rid of all "constraints", but should move forward steadily step by step towards the established goals under the guidance of "constraints". If a person who wants to achieve something lacks self-control, it is like a car without a steering wheel and brakes. It will inevitably "go off track", "go out of line", or even "turn over".

Success comes from self-trust. If this is the case, the relationship between parents and children is also the same. Now, as a parent, remember to believe in yourself and your children!