What to do if your primary school student has a bad temper

What should I do if my primary school student has a bad temper?

With the improvement of people's living standards, children's growth conditions are becoming more and more superior. Moreover, most families now basically have only one child. Many parents usually spoil their babies. Children are like the emperors in the family. They will throw things if they don't agree with them. In fact, children's bad temper is not good for their future growth and health. So what should we do if primary school students have bad tempers?

4 reasons why your child may have a bad temper

1. Overindulgence

Children are the apple of their parents' eyes. There is nothing wrong in loving children, but over-indulgence will only encourage children to do whatever they want. Parents still need to have dignity so that they can be respected by their children during family education. It is best to have both "good people" and "bad people" in a family. If parents just listen to their children's bad temper when they make a fuss, they will just do the same thing next time, thus encouraging their children's bad temper.

2. Suffering a setback

Although the child is young, he also has a sense of frustration and self-esteem. He has a desire to be independent in his heart and gradually begins to hope to be able to make his own decisions about his own affairs. However, some parents always ignore their children's ideas and do not give them a say when making decisions. Sometimes when children encounter unpleasant things at school, their parents are the closest people to them and they can only vent their anger on them.

3. Subconscious influence

When parents teach their children a lesson, they always say "If you don't learn good things, you will learn bad things." Family and school are the children’s living environment. Children, who are like a blank slate, like to imitate adults. They learn quickly and are influenced subtly at every moment. If the parents or teachers themselves are people with bad tempers, children are likely to imitate their behavior and gradually develop similar personalities.

4. Fatigue and tiredness

There are many reasons for fatigue, which may be physical discomfort, lack of sleep, heavy academic workload, etc. Children tend to lose their temper when they are in a bad mood. There is often a period of time when parents are over-caring for their children, but after this period, the children cannot adapt to the lack of special treatment and are prone to lose their temper.

When facing a child who is throwing a tantrum, parents should not over-indulge the child or "retaliate". Instead, parents should wait until the child calms down after venting his temper, have a calm talk with the child, tell him that such behavior is unacceptable, talk in a nice way, and slowly guide the child to change.

Dealing with a bad temper

1. Discipline is not punishment

There are many reasons why children make mistakes and act naughty. The most important thing is that we need to understand clearly why children make mistakes. Children may make mistakes out of childishness, jealousy, panic, fatigue, stress, or frustration. We should spend more time playing with our children, reading books together, and building a good parent-child relationship. A deep understanding of our children's minds helps us choose appropriate discipline methods. Anticipating possible naughty behavior in children can help us prescribe the right medicine. For example, if we are afraid that our child will have a tantrum in the supermarket, before we go out, we'd better explain to him our shopping plans and what we expect from him.

2. Cold treatment is important

Don't think that children are only concerned with throwing tantrums; they are actually secretly observing your reaction. When you encounter this kind of situation, you must remain unyielding despite the might. Ignore him and make it clear to your child that you have seen through his tricks and that they won't work. In order to make the cold treatment effective, we must do a good job of ideological work among the older generation in advance and never let a "Cheng Yaojin" show up halfway. In addition, parents should remind themselves not to be infected by their children's bad temper. If the child does not listen to your advice, tell yourself that people are like this when they are angry. Give him some time to cool down.

3. Food can adjust your personality

What your children eat determines not only how much they weigh, but also how well they feel and behave. For these children, parents should pay special attention to whether they are lacking in foods rich in calcium and magnesium. Since calcium helps the conduction of nerve stimulation, a lack of calcium will prevent children's nerves from relaxing, causing mental tension and bad temper. Likewise, a lack of magnesium can interfere with nerve activity and cause irritability and nervousness. Parents can add milk, soy products, kelp, dried fish, loach, bananas, apples, nuts and dark green leafy vegetables to the diet.