What should I do if my child is rebellious during puberty?

When they reach adolescence, most children, whether boys or girls, will show rebellious reactions. Each child lives in a different environment, receives different education, and has a different personality, so the rebellious reactions vary, such as frequently talking back to parents, often doing the opposite of their parents' wishes, etc. So how should parents solve this problem?

What should I do if my child is rebellious during puberty?

[Speaking of reason]

When facing a child's rebelliousness, do not suppress it with violence. This will only backfire and make the child more rebellious. Be a reasonable parent. Even if the child is unreasonable, the parent himself should be reasonable and not be as crazy as the child. Children may be rebellious, but they still have their rationality and can be reasoned with. So when you encounter a child in his or her rebellious period, you must reason with him or her instead of just blaming him or her. This will have the opposite effect and make the situation worse.

[Reflection on]

Children are very sensitive during adolescence. In many cases, the children’s mistakes are not serious. On the contrary, it is the parents’ problem. It is very bad to force the children to obey them, regardless of whether they are right or wrong. This can easily arouse the children’s rebellious psychology. Therefore, before losing your temper with your child, think about whether the child is too rebellious and unreasonable, or whether it is your unreasonableness that makes the child too rebellious.

[understand]

Many times, children's rebelliousness comes from the misunderstanding between children and their parents. When children are too rebellious and it is a headache, why not put yourself in their shoes and think about whether you would have the same emotion if it were a child? By putting yourself in their shoes, you may have a greater understanding of the child's psychology, and then the methods used to deal with the child's problems will be relatively gentle. Although children are rebellious, they can still feel who loves them. Therefore, understanding is the best weapon to resolve conflicts with children.

[Heart-to-heart talk]

Have a heart-to-heart talk with your children. Sometimes, it is because parents understand their children too much that the children do not know their place. So one-sided understanding is not enough. Both sides need to understand each other a little. You might as well find a calm time to sit down and have a calm chat with your child. Tell your child that you have put yourself in their shoes and realized that you are wrong. Ask your child to put yourself in their shoes and think about why your parents did this, is it for themselves or for their children? In this way, your child will be able to understand his parents to a great extent and resolve many conflicts.

[Experience]

Many times, children’s misunderstanding of their parents is not because they fail to put themselves in their shoes, but because they have not experienced it. Children are in middle school and are not young anymore. Why not let them experience the difficulties of life? Sometimes, once they experience it, children will grow up overnight. As parents, don’t be reluctant to let your children suffer. Send your children to restaurants or fast food restaurants opened by relatives and friends to experience life and experience the difficulties of their parents. At that time, the children will understand that it is not easy to have parents who quarrel with them every day. In this way, the children will be much more mature mentally.

[Be friends with your children]

Don't always use your parental attitude to suppress your children. Don't have the idea that you are the elder and your children must obey you respectfully. Be friends with your children. Boys and girls in their rebellious period are often more willing to listen to and follow the opinions of their friends rather than serious elders. So if you make friends with children, it will be relatively easier to communicate with them. How to make friends with children? Of course, it means putting aside your adult airs, playing games with your children, cooking with them, doing things that all children would do, and listening to the troubles that all children would listen to. This is what a true friend does.

[Keeping children's secrets]

Parents who become friends with their children often know their children’s very private secrets, such as premature love. When faced with this situation, don’t think like a parent and go to school to deal with the matter. Since it is the child’s secret, you should think from the child’s perspective and guide the child to think correctly about the impact of premature love, whether it is really worth it now, and whether premature love is because of love or like. As a child’s friend, you should abandon the parental mindset and act as a loyal friend, so that the child will trust you.

[respect]

Sometimes, parents feel that their children do not respect them enough, but they do not realize that respect is mutual. How much do they respect their children? Are children consulted before any decisions are made about them? Or do you make the decision entirely on your own and have your children obey you regardless of whether they are happy or not? Children raised by such parents will definitely be quite rebellious and depressed. Remember that respect is mutual. Respect your children, listen to their voices, and then make the next decision.