What should I do if my child always loses his temper?

If a child always loses his temper, parents should find out the reason. If this behavioral deviation is not corrected properly, it is likely to cause the child to behave in an extreme way in the future, which is very detrimental to the child's future growth. Parents should pay attention to it. In addition, parents should not spoil their children too much, especially grandparents.

Children tend to lose their temper when they are around 1 year old. Once things don’t go their way, they will get angry, and sometimes even take it out on themselves. The peak period for tantrums is between two and three years old, which is related to the initial formation of their self-awareness and the limitation of their language expression ability.

Children have their own opinions but are unable to express them well. At the same time, parents of children of this age have to begin to regulate their behavior, which we call socialization. During this period, it is easy for parents and children to fall into a dilemma. On the one hand, parents should respect and meet the needs and feelings of their children.

On the other hand, be careful to choose ways to regulate and correct children's behavior that do not hurt their self-esteem. Generally, this phenomenon will continue until the age of four or five, and will get better afterwards. When children have tantrums it doesn't mean they are "bad", they are just doing what they are supposed to do at their age.

1. Over-indulgence. If parents spoil their children, allow them to do whatever they want and grant their every request, the children will tend to take advantage of their parents' failures to achieve their own wishes. This kind of indulgence and lack of education will develop their violent character.

2. Suffer setbacks. Frustration is also one of the main reasons why children lose their temper and cry. Two-year-olds grow very quickly and have a strong desire to be independent and to "master" things, but they are often hindered by adults or their own limited abilities. At this time, the child will feel frustrated about his or her limited abilities and angry about his or her incompetence, so he or she needs to vent.

3. Imitate adults. Some adults lose their temper easily. If parents or teachers lose their temper easily, children will imitate them. Many parents see their own reflections in their children, some lovely, some hateful and some irritating.

There are many reasons why children always lose their temper. Parents must find out the reasons. If it is due to some hidden disease, it should be treated early. If it is a psychological problem, good psychological treatment should be given. If a child's temper tantrums are not corrected properly, it may have a very negative impact on his future.