These 6 parenting truths we have believed wrongly over the years

For the healthy growth of their babies, many parents hold the idea that it is better to do it early than late, and do everything in advance, or force their babies to do things that they don’t like or are not suitable for their age. Today Xiaoshu collected the so-called traditional parenting truths to see how unreliable these truths are.

Myth 1: Babies become smarter when they crawl

While crawling, the baby's left and right hands and left and right feet coordinate with each other to move forward, and vision plays an important role in the adjustment process from sitting to crawling, and from crawling to standing. But so far, there is no reliable research results to prove that specialized crawling training has any special effect on brain development. Babies who can crawl are not necessarily smarter, and babies who cannot crawl are not necessarily dumber.

Remind parents to follow the baby's own development rules. In order to make their babies crawl more, some parents intervene as soon as they see their babies stand up, resulting in some babies not being able to stand until they are one year old. Instead of forcing practice, we should follow the baby's development rules, crawl when he should crawl and walk when he should walk. It is best for him to develop happily and freely.

Myth 2: Cesarean section makes people athletically incompetent

Babies born by cesarean section naturally lack the squeezing of the birth canal and a series of adaptive rotations. Babies born by cesarean section are more likely to lag behind in motor development and sensory integration. However, this inference is not absolute. Many babies born by cesarean section can also have excellent athletic ability.

Expectant mothers don’t need to worry too much when they have to have a cesarean section. You should first choose the appropriate delivery method based on your own conditions and try to choose a natural way to bring your baby into this world. Decide whether to have a natural birth or a cesarean section based on your actual situation at the time, because safety and health are the most important things for you and your baby. To make your baby a sports expert, it is necessary to cultivate his motor skills from an early age, which is a gradual process. So you can start by putting away toys and slowly cultivate a sports atmosphere as well as hands-on abilities and skills.

Rumor 3: Standing and walking early will lead to faster growth

We need to correct a concept: neither standing nor walking can be taught. Except for a few babies with developmental abnormalities, most babies do not require excessive intervention from their parents. They do not need deliberate training, nor should they be overprotected.

If the baby is allowed to walk too early, the baby's soft bones will bear the body weight too early, which will affect the formation of the normal shape of the pelvis and limb bones, is not conducive to the development of the normal physiological curvature of the baby's spine, and is not conducive to the formation of a normal gait.

Therefore, we must follow the baby's own pace. The baby's movements cannot be taught. What we need to do is to provide the baby with a safe and relaxed environment and let the baby follow his or her own development trajectory. Fast or slow is not important. The most important thing is to enjoy the joy of growing up together.

Myth 4: People with slow language development are noble people

There is a saying among the people that "noble people speak late", and it is believed that babies who speak late will be smarter. Experts say that if a baby starts talking late, it may be a sign of illness, and parents should take their baby to a doctor as soon as possible. There is no basis for the idea that babies who start talking late are smarter. Experts point out that delayed language development in babies may be caused by various diseases, such as hearing impairment, mental retardation, autism, etc., and they should go to the hospital for treatment in time.

Clinically, there is indeed a type of baby with delayed speech that is not pathological, called "idiopathic language delay." This type of baby is normal in terms of intelligence, hearing, behavior, etc., except that they start speaking very late. They may not speak anything until they are two and a half or three years old. However, their appearance and behavior are no different from normal babies, and it can be clearly felt that they can understand what adults say.

For these babies, parents don't need to be too anxious. They should just pay attention to talking slowly and telling stories to their babies. However, the diagnosis of "idiopathic language delay" must be made by a specialist.

Myth 5: A pacifier is the most effective way to soothe a crying baby

Pacifiers are one of the parenting items of choice for modern mothers, and they can often immediately relieve a baby’s crying. As long as it is not used for a long time, it will not affect the baby's tooth development.

Myth 6: If a baby is born short, he will be short forever

This statement is one-sided. A baby's height at birth is largely affected by the mother's nutrition and health status during pregnancy, and cannot predict future height. A baby's height is related to both genetics and the acquired environment. Mom and Dad's height, nutrition, sleep, exercise, emotions and many other aspects are closely related to the baby's growth and development.

It may cause oral problems such as malocclusion of teeth.