What to do if your child is bad tempered and cries

If your child always has a bad temper and likes to cry all the time, parents will be very worried. They can never think of any way to relieve their child's emotions and temper problems. In fact, the best way in this situation is to let your child calm down completely first. They must be in a quiet and comfortable environment, which can help them calm down.

1. Let your child calm down first. It’s possible to set up a quiet and comfortable corner in your home where emotionally agitated family members can go alone to calm down. While the child is calm, parents are advised not to comfort or blame the child, as comfort or blame at this time will encourage the child's rebellious behavior. Hold on until your child calms down.

2. Understand your child’s emotions. You can say to your child, "You threw your toys and threw things just now. Are you very angry?" to convey the message to your child: Mom understands me, and it is allowed for me to be angry. When a child feels that his mother understands him, his emotions will calm down a lot.

3. When the child's emotions have basically calmed down, continue to communicate with the child and let the child realize that crying is a wrong way of expression or that his demands are unreasonable. For example, you could say, "Mom understands how you feel, but crying and throwing tantrums won't solve the problem."

3. Seek solutions and alternative activities with your child. For example, tell your child: "If you don't know how to express yourself when you are angry, you can shout out loud, 'I am very angry, I don't like you doing this', or you can stamp your feet, or hug your mother. It is definitely wrong to lose your temper. Think about what other ways you can express it? (For example, drawing, jumping, hitting pillows, running, etc.), and respect your child's ideas as much as possible.

First, never scold or physically punish your children.

The second is to hold children tightly and not let them run wild, destroy things, or destroy themselves.

The first principle is important because reprimanding is like adding fuel to the fire, which is counterproductive. In particular, when parents are furious and uncontrollable, they serve as a "role model" for their children to lose their temper. You must know that softness can overcome hardness, but hardness cannot overcome softness.

The focus of the second principle is to use family affection and good wishes to help children control their uncontrollable emotions. Let them stay still for 5 minutes and the outburst of emotions will subside.

After the child has lost his temper, you should have a heart-to-heart talk with him, educate him/her about the dangers of losing temper, and teach him/her to control his/her emotions with reason. Normally, reasonable requests made by children should be proactively met, and unreasonable requests must not be met, no matter how unreasonable they are. Let the children understand that everything must be done reasonably, and they will not be able to make any progress without reason.

For young children with bad tempers, parents must be consistent in their educational tone and avoid going in opposite directions; education must be persisted, and after a period of time, the situation will get better.

Children often become "temper-tempered" after being sick. Parents should pay attention in the future and not make concessions without principles even when their children are sick. It is necessary for adults to stick to principles when children are crying, but they cannot let children cry all the time. Both adults and children cannot stand it. They must divert their attention in time. For such a young child, after the peak of his crying and making a fuss has passed, take him to see cars, small animals, etc. outside to help him calm down.