Are you guilty of these 10 unforgivable bad habits as a parent?

Parents always want to raise their babies to be perfect children, but as time goes by, they find that their children have more and more habits that you don’t like, such as: picky eating, littering, etc. While teaching your baby a lesson, parents should reflect on whether your bad behavior has affected your child.

TOP1. Quarrel

BBS: Every time I hear the couple next door quarreling, I will think of my parents’ endless quarrels when I was a child, which started as early as I can remember. The one I remember most clearly was when they had a huge argument over “Why did you buy a takeaway cooked food with sugar?” The food at home was cold for several days. Since then, I feel sick whenever I see that kind of food! I also swore that if my husband and I quarrel over a small matter in the future, I will divorce him immediately!

Reminder: There is a term called "childhood shadow". Adverse events experienced in childhood will always leave an indelible mark in people's hearts. Couples who love to quarrel might as well restrain themselves temporarily in front of their children and let their children become air fresheners. Maybe they will be able to slowly "let bygones be bygones" and laugh it off. Besides, there is no such thing as a "grudge" between husband and wife, since they "fight at the head of the bed and make up at the foot of the bed". If that doesn't work, then make three rules. If anyone can't help but break the rules, he will be punished to mop the floor for three days!

TOP2 Proportion of people who often vent their anger on their children: 26.20%

BBS: I have been preparing for the postgraduate entrance examination recently and have been busy with work. I feel very tired. When I get home and see that my wife is not paying attention to me, I feel even more upset! Why do I want to take the postgraduate entrance examination? Isn’t it to make the road ahead wider? So, sometimes I will get angry at the ignorant child: "Why are you crying all the time!" After yelling, I feel really distressed to see the child looking so pitiful! Then... I will go and comfort the baby, and the baby's mother.

Reminder: "Love does not require saying sorry", since you have yelled, what's the use of apologizing? Besides, what did the child do wrong? The fault lies in your lack of ability to adjust your mood! The world is complicated, and there is more to it than just the postgraduate entrance examination. If a vicious cycle of "venting anger - comfort - venting anger" is formed in the long run, it is estimated that "parent-child attachment" will be hopeless. Therefore, in order to form an unbreakable friendly relationship with your children for a long time, you should think twice before losing your temper and consider your family's feelings more.

TOP3 Proportion of being unfaithful to one’s lover: 14.07%

BBS: A year ago, I found out that my husband was pregnant! I was shocked and panicked at first: "I am working hard to take care of the children at home, but you are out there - what should I do, and what about the children?" But after a long period of mental depression, I actually got a little "accustomed to it". Because many people advised me: "As long as he still wants this family, what else do you want? Isn't it our goal to give the child a complete family?"

Reminder: Can a seemingly complete family really give children enough warmth and love? Infidelity to a lover will not only eventually lead to bad consequences in marriage, but "sleeping in the same bed but dreaming different dreams" and "appearance together but spirit apart" will bring children distrust of life and misunderstanding of true human feelings! Children are the fruit of love, and they exist only because of love. Maybe it's time to think deeply.

TOP4 Proportion of being unfilial to the elderly: 13.62%

BBS: I thought this one was a little strange when I saw it listed, but when I think about it, we will all be old in the future and we will all need our children’s respect.

Reminder: "One day you will grow old too", remember this is the slogan of a public service advertisement. It is most appropriate to give this sentence to those young parents who are disrespectful to the elderly. Who are the old people? They are the ones who gave birth to you and raised you. Then who are you? You are the one who gave birth to your baby and raised him. If you don't set an example of filial piety for your children, sooner or later the consequences will catch up with you. Never exaggerate.

TOP5 Proportion of those who are not motivated to make progress: 6.98%

BBS: Who doesn’t want to work harder, get a degree, get a promotion and a raise? But after having a child, I no longer have that energy. Every day when I get home, I pick up the child and don’t let go. Then there are piles of housework to do (my husband rarely helps). Sometimes I don’t have time to do beauty treatments, let alone read or study.

Reminder: Being able to think about beauty and maintaining a youthful appearance and figure is actually a manifestation of "thinking about progress"! However, requirements such as studying, taking exams, and getting promoted are another level of "thinking about progress." In fact, setting an example for children is secondary. What is important is the golden future of the family. You see, it would be fine if the two people didn't dislike each other, but the problem is that one of them succeeds while the other remains stagnant, and then the family situation of the iron triangle will not be so stable.

TOP6 Alcoholism rate: 2.72%

BBS: I hate drunkards. If my husband drinks a little too much, I will block the door and not let him in! Although he often uses "work needs" to evade me, I just don't believe it: if you don't like to drink, who can force you to drink! He drinks so much in front of the child and spits everywhere. I feel so bad for him! I'm glad that he didn't drink so much when he was a subordinate before I got pregnant, otherwise he would have delayed the birth of the child!

Reminder: Even if someone who is not the father (mother) gets drunk, it is also very annoying, not to mention that parents have to always pay attention to their image in front of their children! In fact, the "face" problem is a small matter. The important thing is to plant the good seeds of early education in the children. It is better to teach by example than by words. Let the education of public morality, etiquette, and health really penetrate into the minds of children.

TOP7 Smoking rate: 1.51%

BBS: Everyone knows that smoking is bad for health, and it is even more wrong to let your wife and children breathe secondhand smoke. However, I think smoking is relatively mild compared to other bad habits. After all, most of the time smoking is done in public places and at work.

Reminder: It seems that people are less disgusted with smokers than with alcoholics. However, everyone knows that smoking is harmful. For example, studies have shown that children who frequently inhale secondhand smoke will suffer from hearing loss, and pregnant women who inhale secondhand smoke will experience dizziness, abnormal fetal movements, etc. Therefore, it is better not to smoke or smoke less.

TOP8 Unhygienic Percentage: 1.71%

BBS: How can being unhygienic be included in the list of "unforgivable vices"? Are those who voted have mysophobia?

Reminder: It is certainly not good to be unhygienic! Not only is it easy to cause disease, but more importantly, it is impossible to teach children a healthy lifestyle. It is hard to imagine that children raised by unhygienic parents will be hygienic.

TOP9 Others (including being keen on family gatherings, etc.) Proportion: 1.11%

BBS: I think my husband loves playing cards too much. Not only does it waste a lot of time, but sometimes I lose a little money! He always leaves me alone at home to do housework and look after the children.

BBS: My wife is good in everything, but she likes to hold small parties at home and invite classmates and colleagues to come over, so that she can show off her new clothes or new furniture. But when they came I got a headache and had to hide in the small room with my child.

Reminder: Although it doesn’t sound that serious to us, if it happens to the husbands or wives of these people, they may find it unbearable. Yes, any leisure life should be moderate so as not to affect the normal life of the family.

TOP10: Unable to manage household finances: 0.73%

Warning: Either the parents who voted despise money or they are good at managing family finances, so this important money issue was ranked last. But don't forget, now that we are a family of three, it is necessary to manage finances for the children's education and future, such as investment, savings, insurance, etc., to prepare for a rainy day!