Signs of a child's lack of security

During the process of a child's growth, various mental or personality problems may arise due to various reasons. For example, many children lack a sense of security, which is most likely caused by the lack of companionship from their parents. If this problem exists for a long time, it will have an adverse effect on the baby's future growth. So, what are the manifestations of a child’s lack of security?

For example, when children first start school, they will be particularly reluctant to go to school. They are afraid of going to school and afraid of teachers. Some children are even afraid to look at or talk to their teachers, which are all manifestations of a lack of security. Because they lack a sense of security towards their teachers, children will behave particularly unconfidently in front of their teachers, fearing that they will do something wrong and be punished.

2. They are two different people when their parents are around and when they are not around.

When I was little, I couldn't live without my mother. When my mother is around, adults always praise me for my strong self-care ability, being sensible and polite, and being able to do everything. But as soon as I leave my mother, I become completely different! One time, my mother sent me to my grandmother's house to spend the night. I was only six or seven years old at that time. I walked for more than half an hour from my grandmother's house to my grandmother's house by myself, and then asked my grandmother to call my mother to take me home.

This situation is caused by parents' lack of care for their children, which leads to a lack of sense of security. At that time, my parents were very busy with work and had little time to take care of me. When my parents were around, I felt at ease doing anything and I listened to them, but I would feel particularly devastated when I was away from them. Although parents work hard outside to give their children a better future, their children's psychological needs must also be met. Parental care is important, especially for preschool children.

3. Strong on the outside, fragile on the inside

When I was a child, those "bad kids" in the eyes of the teachers in my class were more inclined to use violence when communicating with classmates, and they were also verbally contradictory when communicating with teachers and parents. Such children often appear strong on the outside but fragile on the inside.

They are wary of things in the outside world. An disharmonious family atmosphere, rude parental behavior, inappropriate educational methods, etc. will make children feel insecure, and thus use this "strong appearance" to disguise themselves.