The importance of fathers spending time with their children

Today's parents are busy with work every day, and in a year, the time they spend on work becomes more than the time they spend on their children. Due to the lack of communication with their children, and the fact that their children are not accompanied in time due to their studies and lives, a generation gap will gradually form as the children grow up. In particular, fathers spend less time with their children due to work, and naturally they are prone to neglect their education. In fact, it is very important for fathers to accompany their children.

Fathers provide boys with the power of role models and give girls a sense of security. Many studies have found that if a boy lacks a father figure before the age of 4, he will lack masculine strength and be easily feminized; if a girl lacks fatherly love before the age of 5, she will be anxious, shy or at a loss when interacting with boys during adolescence.

Influence on the formation of children's personality

When fathers play games with their children, they often do so in a stimulating and exciting way. Children like this way of playing and this kind of interaction, and will gradually show confidence and happiness. This is how fathers subtly influence the formation of their children's qualities.

Affects children's intelligence level

Compared with mothers, fathers have stronger hands-on skills, such as repairing vehicles, electrical appliances, and gardening, which makes children interested in hands-on activities. In the process of hands-on operation, children can stimulate their desire for exploration, imagination and creativity. The stronger the hands-on practical ability, the more it can promote the development of intelligence level.

Influence on children's social behavior

This is because in the process of playing games with children, fathers help children establish game rules and cultivate a sense of rules. This sense of rules can improve children's self-control ability. Studies have shown that the lower the level of self-control, the more problem behaviors a child has; the higher the level of self-control, the higher the level of socialized behavior.

A father's influence on his children goes far beyond the above points, and also involves many aspects such as physical, emotional, and moral character. Children who have little contact with their fathers will have slower development in weight, height, movements, etc. They are generally anxious, lack self-esteem, and show depression, loneliness, willfulness, hyperactivity, and dependence. If a child lacks fatherly love for a long time, he or she may suffer from "lack of fatherly love syndrome", which will cause obstacles and defects in cognition, personality, emotion and other aspects.

Obama once said in a statement: "As a father of two daughters, I know that being a father is one of the most important jobs for any man." In his view, being a father is no less important than being president.

There is no doubt that fathers have an impact on their children. Under the current objective conditions of high pressure in life and busy work, how can fathers do a good job of being a father after work? In fact, it is not as difficult as imagined, as long as you can accompany your children to do these things:

1. Exercise together

Relatively speaking, dad's motor nerves are more developed and he is more willing to sweat. Exercise is extremely beneficial to children's bones, muscles, cardiovascular system, etc. during their growth and development. Let dad take the children to play ball, run, and ride a bike regularly and fully enjoy the joy of sports.

2. Take your kids on an adventure

After children are three years old, they especially need their fathers to take them into nature to explore and adventure. If a child suffers minor injuries, the father usually won't make a fuss. If the child is in danger, the father will also respond in time and provide a safe adventure environment.

3. Get started together

Many fathers have a strong desire to explore and try things, and their hands-on nature makes them qualified experiential learning instructors. Only by accompanying children in their constant trial and error process can we teach them to be flexible and better adapt to this rapidly changing world.

The first time I went to a ball game or a movie with my dad...all the first times I shared with my dad are things that many people will never forget. Spending time with dad can bring children a sense of security and good memories, which can give children great strength and help them to be strong when they encounter difficulties and setbacks.

5. Read together

Reading is not just a simple process of acquiring knowledge, it also involves building parent-child relationships. It is in the process of reading with children that fathers help their children read, observe and think, thus building an intimate and warm parent-child relationship.

6. Love Mom More

Let the child feel that dad and mom love each other enough, and that as a husband, dad has tender feelings for mom. You know, children are always observing and feeling the way their father treats their mother. This will not only affect their inner psychological and emotional development, but also affect their future interactions with the opposite sex.

Writer Tim Winton once said: Dad didn't necessarily take us to experience adventures or exciting things. On the contrary, the things we experienced together were very ordinary, but these times were unforgettable to me. Even ordinary things like hanging out with my dad were full of warmth, so my childhood is a warm memory of my life.