What to do if your child is very rebellious

When reaching adolescence, every child is likely to become rebellious. When a child becomes rebellious, parents must guide them patiently and make friends with their children. Talk to your child as a peer and solve the problems he or she encounters during adolescence. Never hit or scold your child, as this will only aggravate his or her rebellious mentality.

There are no children who cannot be taught, only bad teaching methods. Parents and teachers are often anxious because their children are slow to make progress, and as a result, they either rudely label their children as "stupid" or "difficult to change", or they think that they are not well-educated and have low levels and are unable to educate their children. In fact, as long as the method is appropriate, any child can be excellent; as long as you are attentive, you can always find the right educational method.

1. Play the weak card - let the child act as a "little adult" Parents often complain that children nowadays are indifferent to their parents and lack a sense of responsibility. They don’t know that children’s sense of responsibility must be cultivated from an early age. If you always appear fearless in front of your children, they will think that their parents do not need their care and concern. Therefore, parents might as well pretend to be weak once in a while and ask their children for help. You will be surprised to find that your children will become sensible "little adults" because of this, and you can also gain a lot from their help.

2. Reinforcement plan - help children change from inferiority to self-confidence. James Doblin, a famous philosopher and Ph.D. from California, proposed the "Law of Reinforcement". When a person's behavior produces a satisfactory result, the behavior will be repeated. Therefore, when a child is recognized, his (her) self-confidence will be stimulated, and he (she) will continue to repeat satisfactory behaviors until he (she) gets rid of inferiority and becomes a confident and motivated child.

3. Inducement plan - help children overcome the quagmire of school aversion. Almost every child has some aversion to school, which is understandable but cannot be left unchecked, because this emotion will hinder the child's enthusiasm for learning and have immeasurable impact on the child's growth. However, forcing children to study is not a good idea, as it will only deepen their aversion. The smart way is to induce children's interest in learning and let them learn spontaneously.

4. The cold shoulder strategy - let the child have some self-control. Most children today are only children and receive meticulous care and attention from their families. However, this kind of life allows children to develop willful habits, and this bad habit will pose a huge hidden danger to their future lives. Experts suggest that when children are willful, you may try the cold treatment, which will make the child automatically calm down because they are not getting attention.

5. Teach children strategies for failure - give them a chance to experience failure. American educator Carol Sandburg said: "Talents can certainly emerge in good times, but they can also emerge in bad times. And children who grow up through setbacks and hardships in adversity are more competitive in survival." In other words, in order to enhance children's frustration tolerance, parents may wish to consciously create some moderate frustration for their children. This kind of frustration education is very beneficial to enhancing children's psychological endurance.

6. Let go plan - cultivate children to do things by themselves. Don't do everything for your children. Parents should try to let go and let their children do things independently. They may not do it well the first time, but they will be able to do it quickly and well in the future. Never be a helicopter parent. Let go and create opportunities and platforms for your children to do things. Only then will your children become independent and you as parents will have less trouble.

7. Indulgence strategy - let children develop their potential through "naughtiness". Some parents complain that their children are "too naughty" and "destructive". In fact, these children are often very smart, have strong desire for knowledge and curiosity, and have stronger willpower than ordinary children. Therefore, smart parents should try to "indulge" their children's mischief and "destructive" behavior, and take the opportunity to tap their potential and cultivate their interests. Maybe your child is another "Edison."

8. Punishment plan - let the child face up to his mistakes.

When educating children, it is necessary to clearly distinguish between rewards and punishments. Children should be rewarded for doing well, but when they do something wrong, they must not be tolerated. Even if it is just a minor mistake, appropriate punishment should be imposed. This way, children can face up to their mistakes and correct them in time, so as not to get deeper into the mistakes.

9. Cooling meter - "pour cold water" on conceited children.