How to educate children who bite others

Children do not need to have self-discipline and self-control like adults do due to social responsibilities. Children's intelligence is not fully developed yet, and they do not think things through, which may lead to behaviors that hurt others or even themselves. At this time, adults need to teach and use a certain reward and punishment system to restrain children. Sometimes when adults are too indulgent, children may behave in a rebellious way by biting others. How should we educate them at this time?

reason

1. The unprincipled indulgence of our ancestors.

2. Physiological reasons: He is in a self-centered period. At this stage, he always thinks that this is mine and that is mine. He does not know how to share and cooperate, and it is common for him to fight over toys. The child's language development lags behind, and he cannot use language to correctly deal with problems with other children. He is also prone to biting, hitting, and scratching others. There are also children who hit others not because they want to attack the other person, but because they are trying to show friendliness to the other person. It's just that their behavior looks like a fight, and they don't know the severity of the problem. For example, when they kiss a child, it looks like they are biting, and when they hug a child, it looks like they are wrestling, and they hurt the child who is being kissed or bitten, and then the two people start fighting.

3. Negative reaction of the attacked. According to the research of Patterson et al., when a child rushes over to grab another child's toy, if the attacked child reacts by crying, retreating or remaining silent, the child will treat the other child in the same way.

4. Due to poor language. After 2-3 year old babies learn to walk, their need for communication develops rapidly as their mobility increases and their range of activities expands. However, due to lack of language and lack of understanding

5. Psychological reasons. They don’t know how to interact with others, so they often use extraordinary means such as pushing, pulling, and biting to attract the attention of their companions in order to achieve the purpose of interacting and expressing their wishes. Biting is a form of release. Babies aged 2 years and under often show strong egocentrism. When they feel dissatisfied, they will vent it by biting others. For example, sometimes when his parents go out and don’t take the baby with them, he will feel dissatisfied and want to vent. So, when his parents come home, he will vent his anger on them by biting them.

6. Imitation out of curiosity. Sometimes babies bite as a form of social imitation. Babies are always very curious. When they see other children biting others, they will think it is a very novel thing, so they will try to bite others. Because babies at this stage have a particularly strong ability to imitate, biting incidents in groups will occur frequently.

(one). Prevention first.

(two). Patience and emphasis on education. After a child bites someone, don't worry too much and blame the child. You should realize that children biting is mostly a stage-specific problem in their physical and psychological development, and is not an aggressive behavior. . Therefore, we must be patient, help children analyze the reasons, and then carry out serious education to prevent them from developing bad behavioral habits. If possible, take him to apologize to the child who was bitten.

(three). Relieve, care more. Measures to prevent children from biting others should be taken in daily life. Parents who usually have Xixi as their child usually prepare noodles, biscuits and the like to satisfy his chewing needs. You can also give your child fruits like sugar cane to relieve his toothache. When children feel itchy, they can also chew other fabrics. If you alleviate your child's special needs during special periods, biting behavior will decrease.