What to do if your child is too delicate

Children are the center of a family and everyone revolves around them. This will cause children to be too pampered, mainly because adults love and spoil them too much. In a family, if one of the adults does not spoil the child, he will often become a loser because the other adults will join the child in opposing him, which will have the opposite effect. So what should we do if our child is too delicate?

1. Don’t give in to your child in everything. Establish your authority.

If a child is used to being obeyed, he will have to listen to his parents in everything. If he doesn't listen to his parents, he will think that his parents don't love him anymore and will not meet his demands. Then he will lose his temper and make a big fuss, making a lot of noise. This is spoiling the child. Parents must establish their authority and know how to refuse children. They must tell children clearly that unreasonable demands will not be met and that it is useless to make a fuss. If they cry, they can go into their room and cry. Parents must be willing to let go, otherwise the child will even ask you to pick the stars in the sky.

2. Set rules for your children

Every parent has his or her own principles in his or her heart, but when facing his or her children, they always forget their principles and are tolerant of their children. However, this kind of tolerance is wrong. It is spoiling and harming children. Children, like adults, must have principles and bottom lines in doing things. If they exceed the principles, they must be punished. If they perform well, they will be rewarded. Let the children know how to distinguish between good and bad things. This is a good enlightenment for their future life. It lets them know how to do the right thing and how to do something well.

3. Ignore the child’s fuss

Parents all know what kind of children need education and need to correct their wrong behaviors. However, when their children go against their wishes and become disobedient and make a fuss, they know that it is just the children's little tricks but they are helpless and try hard to coax and compromise. Children also know that their parents will eventually let them do what they want, so they use this trick every time. However, if parents insist on educating their children, ignore their troubles, and deal with them seriously, after a few more such disturbances, the children will understand that their parents are really strict with them, and they will slowly change.

4. Let your children watch more educational and gratitude-themed films

Many programs nowadays are about education and gratitude. For example, children from poor areas have to take care of themselves and their families when they are just little. Education is a luxury for them. After seeing what has happened to these children, will our children feel compassion? Will they feel happy? Will they thank their parents? Will they become more sensible? So we can let our children watch more programs of this kind so that they can learn to be grateful and learn to cherish.

5. Let children know that parents are not omnipotent

In the child's mind, mom and dad are omnipotent, and anything can be solved as long as mom and dad step in. This seems to give him a strong backing, and he can let mom and dad protect him without worries. This is not okay. This kind of thinking is very detrimental to the child's independence. Don't try anything by yourself and rely on your parents. Over time, the child's dependence psychology will be very strong and he can't leave his parents. At this time, parents can play the role of the weak at the right time and give the child a chance to protect himself. For example, when moving a table, the parents can't move it together, so they let the child help. Once the child helps, the table can be moved. Parents can tell the child that without his help, what would mom and dad do, and the table can't be moved.

When you grow up, you must take care of your parents. This is said to let the child understand how important his growing up and independence are to his parents, let him know that his parents need his help and protection, let him have a sense of responsibility, and let him know that his parents are not omnipotent.

6. Train your child and let him experience hardship

The child is used to being spoiled. Although he is still young, we can also let him be tempered. For example, let him be responsible for cleaning all the rooms in the house. We should also tell him that this is what mom and dad do every day. When he is too tired to move, he will know how hard mom and dad work. Let him understand his parents and at least restrain his spoiled temper.