How to cultivate children to be brave

We all know that children nowadays are generally timid, especially when they are young in kindergarten. The teachers in kindergarten are relatively strict, which can cause children to be psychologically timid. Many parents are helpless about their children's timidity and hope that their children can be bolder and have the courage to try anything. So how can we cultivate children to be bolder? The editor will introduce it to you below.

1. Let nature take its course and don’t rush things

Children's timid and bad psychological behaviors develop gradually as they grow older, under the influence of environment and education. We cannot expect to overcome them overnight. We must follow the principle of gradual progress and guide them patiently.

If the child is afraid to go shopping by himself, parents can take the child shopping together first; tell the child the general procedure of shopping, accompany the child to the same store next time, encourage the child to buy as much as he wants, etc. The child may be afraid to speak at the beginning. Parents can help him start and then let the child continue. After a few times, when the child gradually becomes familiar with the store, parents can watch the child go shopping from a distance, and then let the child go to other stores alone.

2. Don’t blame or humiliate your child in public

This will only increase the child's stress and frustration, making him more timid and withdrawn. When a child refuses to call people, do not force him to call in front of the guests, and do not say scolding and humiliating words such as "He can't even call people, he's a mute." Instead, wait until the guests leave and then patiently educate and encourage the child.

3. Create conditions to expand children’s exposure

Parents should consciously let their children have extensive contact with society, guide them to interact with other people, and let them participate in activities such as games, shopping, and receiving guests without realizing it. For children who are afraid to find others to play with, you can first take him to watch other children play. When he is infected by others' joy, ask other children to invite him and encourage him to actively participate.

4. Let go and discipline your child

We must dare to let go and allow our children to be tempered in the ocean of life. Some parents always treat their children as children, or are afraid that their children cannot withstand being beaten, and often say: "You can't do it" or "You are still young". Parents' over-care for their children will make their children timid and fearful, lacking in independent spirit and adaptability, and they will become panic-stricken and at a loss once they leave their parents. Moderate setbacks and hardships are indispensable assets for a child's growth. Parents should never deprive their children of this ability easily, but should let them play freely. Children especially like to play with sand and mud, and parents should try not to interfere with how they play.

5. Set a positive example

Tell your children heroic stories often, or guide them to watch movies and TV shows that portray heroic characters, buy them some books and periodicals on this subject, and let the heroic words and deeds of the characters in the stories subtly influence your children.

Give the child positive psychological hints and list some of his brave behaviors, such as not crying after being beaten, or only crying for a short while, speaking loudly and admitting mistakes, etc.

We should also pay attention to the influence of the father on the boy's character. Fathers should talk, laugh and play with their children more often, and pay attention to talking to their children about their dad more often, so that the father's image and behavior remain clear in the children's minds.