What to do if your child is stubborn

Children are the treasures of the family. Elders will pamper them more than parents, which may lead to children having a bad temper. Children are stubborn and always disobey arrangements. These are relatively common phenomena. Parents need to set an example and slowly guide their children's temper. When children act unreasonably, parents must not indulge them and should give them correct guidance.

How to guide a stubborn child to become less stubborn?

Parents should lead by example. Your child is a mirror of you, and you can see the shadow of an adult in your child. If your child is very stubborn, adults should also review their own words and deeds, and pay attention to establishing an image of being kind, generous, and easy to communicate with in life, especially in front of children. Consult with your children more often instead of just giving orders. When your children have different ideas, listen to them and communicate your ideas with them patiently.

Create a harmonious family atmosphere. The external environment, especially the family environment, is crucial to the development of a child's character. Children who grow up in a harmonious and peaceful family will have more sound personality development. On the contrary, if the family atmosphere is bad and parents often quarrel, the child's character development will be distorted.

Don't hit or scold, communication is the most important thing. Language communication is the prerequisite for establishing harmonious relationships, and it is also the key to enabling children to fully understand others and change their stubborn character. Through verbal communication, children will not stick to a certain idea and know that there are many options to complete a task.

Let your child calm down first. When children start to lose their temper, they usually make a lot of noise. At this time, trying to communicate with the child is ineffective. Parents can deliberately ignore the child or divert the child's attention, and then communicate and reason with the child when the child's temper has eased and calmed down.

Let your children experience the consequences of their stubborn temper. When a child is stubborn and insists on doing something, parents should let him try it if they judge that there is no danger. If he fails or causes consequences, let the child experience the loss caused by his stubborn temper and suppress his enthusiasm.

Pay attention to thinking from the perspective of older children. If your child has reached a certain age and has a certain degree of independent thinking ability, then you should pay attention to considering the issue from the child's perspective. When communicating with your child, you should also pay attention to including your own thinking in the child's perspective, so that the child knows that you have also considered his ideas. At the same time, parents should express their own positions and opinions so that children can clearly understand their thoughts.

We must stick to principles. Usually the bottom line set for children cannot be easily broken, and one cannot compromise with children. If parents have no principles, their children will become emotionally confused. If a child accidentally finds that the noise makes you lose your bottom line, he will use the same method to force you to submit next time. You should know that sticking to principles is the best way to get children to give up their stubbornness.

Precautions

There should be both punishment and reward. Children’s stubborn and wrong behaviors must be clearly stopped and punished; however, when children give up their stubbornness, are willing to listen to others’ opinions and make changes, they should be rewarded.