What should I do if my child plays with private parts?

According to Freud's theory of psychological development, children's phallic period is between 3 and 6 years old. This period is mainly characterized by children's love of playing with their genitals and obtaining psychological and physical satisfaction through touching and other means. However, children in this period have no moral awareness of their own behavior, so their behavior is not differentiated by occasion and is often exposed to the public. Parents who are unaware of the behavior of children in the phallic period are usually very troubled. What should they do to guide them in a good way?

Xiaoyang from the neighboring house is 5 years old. One day, his mother saw Xiaoyang sitting on the floor without pants and playing with his genitals while hanging clothes on the balcony. His mother was furious and picked up Xiaoyang and beat him: "What are you doing? Are you ashamed? How could I give birth to such a little hooligan like you!" Xiaoyang was very confused and aggrieved and burst into tears, and his cries echoed throughout the whole floor...

Is what this mother did right? Obviously not. Because children have not received sex education, they do not understand the relationship between men and women and cannot raise the issue to a moral level. The mother in this case was obviously using adult concepts and ideas to restrain this boy who was still a child. In the child's mind, he is just doing what is supposed to happen according to his growth trajectory, but the child's behavior makes the adult mother feel ashamed, so she beats and scolds the child in an attempt to stop the child's "inappropriate" behavior. But do you know? This is an indelible psychological shadow for young and ignorant children. It will make the children carry a heavy psychological burden from an early age, which will then affect their future friendships.

Therefore, if you want to be a smart mother, you can try another method, such as diverting the child's attention, "Baby, can you help mom get a clothes rack?" Or you can say directly to the child, "Baby, what are you doing? Cool down on the ground!" Pay attention to using a gentle expression when speaking. If your child feels embarrassed, don't ask any more questions and change the subject. If the child says it directly, the mother might as well say, "This is not good. You can't play with your penis casually. Others will laugh at you. Besides, it's unhygienic to play with it all the time. You will get sick. You have to take good care of it!" Such an answer not only preserves the child's self-esteem, but also makes the child realize that this is not good. Isn't it more desirable?

However, in order to avoid this situation from happening again, the first thing is to keep up with the child's sex education in a timely manner; in terms of clothing, we should choose loose and breathable underwear for children to avoid stimulating the genitals, and cultivate more healthy hobbies in other aspects of children. It is our unshirkable responsibility as parents to let children develop healthily and happily both physically and mentally.