The 8 best times to educate your children

American psychologist and family issues expert Rosemond once said that modern parents spend more time, energy and money on their children than in the past, and are more democratic, but overall, children are more spoiled than in the past. This situation occurs because parents have specious ideas about education. In fact, if parents can seize the best time for education, they may achieve twice the result with half the effort.

1. When you are frustrated

Good psychological endurance is not innate. Dr. Carol Dweck, an American developmental psychologist, recommends that when children encounter setbacks, parents should use the "growth theorist learning approach" to educate their children. If your child is tricked into losing a piece of candy, tell him: This is also a good thing because you have learned to identify lies and will not be deceived again. In this way, turning bad things into good things gradually becomes the child's habitual thinking. In the future, I will not be so gloomy when facing setbacks.

2. When you are confused

When a child feels confused, parents can seize his desire to solve the problem and help him sort it out in a timely manner. For example, one day the child comes home and keeps repeating "What does "understanding live long" mean". The mother can naturally tell the child about the misunderstanding between herself and her colleagues, and tell her that being misunderstood is inevitable. If she is not wrong, she should communicate with the other party in time; if she is wrong, she should find an opportunity to apologize.

3. When entertaining guests

Dealing with people is a compulsory course for children. When they go out to visit others or when guests come to home, children’s words and deeds will unconsciously become "rules". Parents can give them guidance at the right time, which will be very effective. For example, if a guest brings a gift, the father can remind the child appropriately: "Did you forget to say something?" If the child has not realized it yet, the father can say to the guest: "Thank you for the gift. I thank you on behalf of my child!" At this time, the child will naturally learn to say "thank you".

4. Parents' meeting

Regardless of their performance, parent-teacher conferences are the most uneasy times for children. Parents may wish to take this opportunity to communicate fully with teachers. Especially when pointing out problems with children at school, we must uphold the principles of objectivity and fairness, first report the child's good performance at home to the teacher, and fully exchange opinions. After the communication, point out the child’s shortcomings and deficiencies in a tactful manner. The child is generally happy to accept them and will actively correct them in the future.

5. When you are interested

If parents find their children using objects to explore electrical sockets, they will stop them immediately, but they must also see that their children have a strong interest in household appliances. It may be a good idea to start from here to cultivate their learning ability, then provide necessary safety education, encourage and support safe exploration behavior, and teach students in accordance with their aptitude.

6. When bad behavior first appears

Children often develop bad habits because the bad behavior was not corrected in time when it first occurred. Young children have no sense of right and wrong, such as throwing food on the ground, hitting other children for no reason, crying when not fed, etc. Parents should seize this "first time" to help their children lay a good foundation.

7. When you achieve results

When children achieve something, their self-confidence will be stronger than usual. Parents should seize this opportunity to affirm and encourage them, and help them transform their temporary enthusiasm into lasting motivation. At the same time, don't ignore the possibility of complacency.

8. When your friends achieve results

Children with mature mental development all have a common characteristic of not wanting to fall behind. When friends achieve success, children may appear to be indifferent, but they often secretly make up their minds to catch up. Parents should seize the opportunity to provide guidance and set appropriate goals. Don't compare too much with others and hurt your child's self-esteem.