"Seven Ones" Parenting Method

Many parents with girls hope that their daughters will be smart, pretty, cute and loved by everyone. This requires paying attention to the education methods and avoiding taking some inappropriate methods.

There's a world of difference between being well behaved and being taciturn, but girls seem to be pushed into the latter category. We often teach her to be a "lovely girl" by saying "Girls are honey, spice and all good things." We teach girls in various ways to be friendly, avoid all conflicts, not trouble others, and be content with the status quo, so that they can be likable girls.

2. Buy her gender-specific toys

Buy her only pink toys for the first three years of her life, and your daughter may decide that pink is her favorite color because "that's what girls are supposed to like." Research shows that this is not an innate genetic predisposition, but is caused by parental and social factors.

A 2009 study found that 31% of "girls" toys emphasized appearance, including plastic makeup and doll dresses, while toys aimed at boys were more likely to encourage creativity, exploration, competition and problem-solving skills, all of which are needed to be good employees and leaders.

3. Only praise her for her beauty

Indeed, she is a cute doll, curly.

The ponytail is so charming that you can't help but exclaim. But she was also an expert at reading poetry, a building wizard at stacking intricate pillow forts, and could sing and mime on the guitar.

We live in a "looks matter" society, and she will one day realize that appearance matters. But if parents can start to encourage and recognize her achievements that are not based on appearance, this will send a message that her value does not arise from her appearance and will not end with her appearance.

4. Let her believe in the "Princess Dream"

Princess culture encourages girls to let themselves get caught up in a chaotic life and wait for the prince charming to come down from the sky, save her and bring meaning and value to her life.

Girls may mistakenly think that all they need to do is attract the prince. This can make girls feel that they are insignificant and worthless, and that they can only be complete when they depend on men.

Although it may be easier to ask a man to fix the faucet, parents should be aware of challenging the atypical gender division of household chores, otherwise it will make people feel that women are weaker than men and that women will always be "caregivers" rather than "breadwinners." Show girls that moms can perform important financial operations or fix a faucet.

6. Only let her play with other girls

Research shows that drawing boundaries and playing your own game can lead to two different sets of goals for men and women

Social skills, life styles, and life expectations and preferences.

A report released in the fall of 2011 showed that graduates of girls' schools are not more accomplished, but are more likely to adhere to gender stereotypes.

So, if your daughter hangs out with girls at school, try encouraging her to develop friendships with boys or invite boys to her birthday party. She will understand that she can do everything a boy can do, and even do it better than a boy.

7. Criticizing your own and other women’s bodies

When you discuss dieting in front of your daughter, how to lose a few more pounds, or criticize other women's clothing styles because of their bodies, your daughter will believe that women must maintain a certain body shape to be considered cute or successful.