What to do when children don't respect their parents

In today's society, the number of families with only one child is gradually increasing, but the children of only children often have a bad attitude towards their parents and do not respect their parents. In fact, most of the time it is the parents' fault. So what should I do?

Being too strict with children and controlling everything

Most Chinese parents take a "control" attitude in the process of educating their children. They believe that it is the natural duty of parents who give birth to and raise their children to discipline their children. If they raise their children but do not educate them, it is the parents' fault. The family education guided by this idea is to take care of many things for children from childhood to adulthood, no matter how big or small. It is this kind of education that does not let go when it should, which has caused Chinese parents to pay the bitter fruit of not being respected by their children.

Children are left to their own devices without clear rules for discipline

You let your child do whatever he wants and don't care about him at all. You have lost your authority in front of him. When you threaten your child that you will punish him, you never keep your promise. You are always too soft-hearted at the critical moment of educating your child. The disciplinary rules that you once clearly established change with your mood. You will definitely not gain your child's respect in this way.

When you see your child make a big mistake, punish him without asking why.

Once you think your child has made a big mistake, you will punish him/her severely, almost to the point of cruelty. It will be difficult for you to truly communicate with your child, and you may even monitor his/her whereabouts and performance in school. If you only know how to punish your child without asking for the reason or understanding the child's psychological condition, then the child you beat will only become a "rebellious child."

Treat children as your ideal and continuation

Many parents regard their children's success as their own ideal in life, and therefore make extremely high demands on their children. Because of the ideals that could not be realized and the things that could not be satisfied when they were young, parents always want their children to help them realize them, thus forgetting that children are another complete individual, not a substitute for someone else to realize their ideals. In fact, only when you truly respect children will they truly respect you.