What to do if your child is shy

Different people have individual differences in their personalities and also in the way they treat others. Some people are very cheerful and generous when facing strangers and can talk freely, but there are also many children who face the problem of being afraid of strangers and become very shy and afraid once they see strangers. For parents, what they should do to help their children get rid of their shyness is a very confusing question.

Parents are calm. When it comes to children’s fear of strangers, we must “remain calm and ignore it” and never nag about it all day long. You should know that if you say that your child is shy in front of others, the child will subconsciously think that he is a shy child.

Don’t blame the child afterwards, because you don’t understand the fear of the child when meeting strangers. The best way is to pretend that we don’t know that he is afraid of strangers and do what we should do. Take him wherever you should take him.

Accept your child’s fear of strangers. When he is shy and cries, you will definitely feel embarrassed. At this time, we must show a broad mind and accept the child. Accept it calmly and frankly, without criticizing or emphasizing. This is very important and parents must remember it. Often after we persist for a period of time, the child will forget her shy behavior and gradually become generous.

Take your children with you to public places more often. If possible, you can bring your child with you when you go out for social events or parties with friends, so that your child can meet and interact with more people. At first, he will definitely reject or be afraid, so we should take him with a gentle attitude. Be proud of him and take pride in him. Let the child feel that we do not dislike him because he is shy. Of course, since you have brought your child there, you must not force him to interact with others. Some parents will let their children perform in front of others, but this is definitely not allowed for a shy child.

Don't let others pay too much attention to him. In certain situations, shy children are afraid of other people's attention and afraid of becoming the focus of everyone. Therefore, as parents, we should avoid this kind of environment and try our best to create a comfortable and natural environment for our children. For example, my child Tangtang is often surrounded by people because of her natural curly hair. After we found out that she was shy, I secretly greeted everyone around her and asked everyone to ignore her. She found that she was no longer the focus of attention, and gradually she relaxed and no longer avoided walking among people.

Don't deliberately avoid strange yet familiar environments that make children nervous. Take your child there as openly as you did before when you were not afraid of strangers. However, if he raises objections, you must obey and leave immediately. We must politely refuse the touch and hug of strangers, but don't use the reason that the child is afraid of strangers, and don't show any trace of worry in front of the child.

Adhere to happy education. As parents, we must have a premise and principle when educating our children, which is to ensure that our children are happy. When it comes to being shy, it's best not to force your child to do something. Instead, guide her to slowly overcome the problem while making her feel comfortable and happy.

Precautions

Overcoming shyness is a long process. Parents should not be anxious. As long as we maintain a good attitude and take our children out to meet friends more often, our children will become more and more cheerful and generous.