How to guide children away from the mentality of comparison

Some people explain the comparison and extravagance of modern middle school students from the four aspects of food, clothing, daily necessities and entertainment. They are lavish in spending, often thousands of yuan. In real life, this is no exaggeration.

A parent told me that his child had recently started stealing money from home and telling lies. Later, his parents found out and asked him the reason. It turned out that he wanted to buy brand-name clothes but he was afraid that his parents would not give them to him, so he had to steal.

The pursuit of famous brands and avant-garde is a manifestation of the "semi-mature psychology" of contemporary students, which stems from their imitation of society and the outside world. Coupled with the growing vanity, in order to attract the attention of those around them, they will compete with their classmates in terms of clothing and trendy electronic products. You are cool, I am super cool, I am awesome!

The reason why children like to compare mobile phones, clothes, food and drinks is actually a manifestation of lack of self-confidence. Because of lack of confidence, I care more about external things. Children can "prove" themselves through these external conditions without having to put in much effort, because these things have been prepared for them by their parents.

How to guide children away from the mentality of comparison? It all starts from home. Many of the times when children have such situations are due to the parents, so parents should also pay attention. The following is a detailed introduction so that parents know what to do.

How to guide children away from the mentality of comparison:

Parents should guide their children to be competitive in positive areas, such as study, conduct, skills, etc., and never let their children develop in the direction of pursuing material things or bad behaviors. Secondly, parents should encourage their children to win over others through personal efforts in a legitimate way. At the same time, parents should pay attention to not putting too much pressure on their children, prevent them from getting stuck in a dead end, and comfort them when necessary to let them relax. Psychological experts believe that it is normal for children to be competitive.

In fact, every "I want too..." that a child asks is carefully considered, and parents should pay attention to correct guidance at this time. Making good use of children's competitive psychology is also a resource.

When children ask for more and more "I want too", parents are advised to do "four do's and four don'ts": they should teach by example instead of simply preaching; they should give reasonable guidance instead of over-indulging; they should cultivate good habits instead of doing whatever they want; they should face up to their strengths and weaknesses instead of favoring one over the other.

What is children's comparison psychology:

The so-called comparison mentality is a psychological state in which one deliberately compares oneself with others in terms of intelligence, ability, living conditions, etc., and hopes to surpass others. Comparison is a common phenomenon among children nowadays, such as comparison of material conditions, parents' social status and appearance, etc. This phenomenon often leaves parents at a loss.

Through the above introduction, we have a good understanding of how to guide children away from the mentality of comparison. Therefore, when children encounter such a situation, you can choose the above methods. However, it should be noted that in daily life, we must establish a correct outlook on life for children, so that their growth can be smoother.