What should I do if my child likes to complain?

Children are innocent individuals. Every child will go through a pure stage. However, with the changes in the environment they face and the influence of social etiquette, many children have deviations in their psychological development. For example, some children will report their bad behavior to their parents when conflicts arise when they get along with other children. Frequent complaints are very detrimental to the growth of children. Let's take a look at what to do if children love to complain?

Telling tales is a normal phenomenon in children's social development. Children's complaining may seem like a small matter, but if not handled properly, it may affect the relationship between the child and his peers, and may also have an impact on the formation of the child's character and quality.

1. Guide children to judge right from wrong

In the eyes of parents, children will complain about even the smallest matter. Many parents will feel annoyed by this situation and ignore it, or even respond impatiently by saying, "Take care of yourself first." If parents always respond to their children's complaints in this way, the children will be confused. They are obviously wrong, so why don't parents criticize them but scold them instead? Therefore, parents must distinguish the purpose of their children's complaints and treat them differently.

2. For children who complain outwardly, parents should affirm their behavior and encourage them to do the right thing. For tentative complaints, parents should make their stance clear and give affirmative or negative answers. For young children who tend to seek help and make a fuss, parents should analyze the course of events with their children, so that they can learn to view other people's behavior fairly and objectively, and understand that peers should understand and give in to each other.

3. Guide children to deal with problems independently

If every time the child complains, the parents just say, "Okay, I'll criticize him," this will inevitably reinforce the child's complaining behavior, making the child's complaining behavior become more and more serious. Therefore, when children complain, parents can say "solve it yourself!" or "I know I can handle it myself", thereby encouraging children to deal with the problem on their own and cultivating their ability to solve problems independently.