Cultivating the best emotional intelligence for boys

In the field of education, it is generally believed that IQ and EQ are equally important. People with high IQ often show stronger learning ability and more active thinking, while people with high EQ show greater charm in daily life and interpersonal communication, and are loved by many people. Therefore, it is very important for parents to cultivate their children's IQ and EQ. So how should they cultivate the best EQ for boys?

Today's society pays more and more attention to a person's emotional intelligence and realizes the importance of emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence refers to a child's ability to control emotions, recognize other people's emotions, and handle relationships. Emotional intelligence is not innate, it mainly depends on acquired influences. So if you want your child to have high emotional intelligence, you must cultivate it from an early age, but you must be careful not to raise a child with low emotional intelligence. The following three types of families are most likely to raise children with low emotional intelligence.

1. Families who rarely spend time with their children

What children need most is the company of their parents so that they can establish a full sense of security. If the child lacks sufficient companionship from his or her parents during this period, the child's emotional intelligence will not be sufficiently stimulated, and he or she will lack a sense of security, and show a negative, inferior, and difficulty trusting others character.

2. Families that dote on their children

One characteristic of children with low emotional intelligence is that they lack empathy and are unable to consider issues from other people's perspectives. If parents over-indulge their children, make everything at home centered on their children, and always want to take care of all the children's affairs themselves, this will make the children accustomed to it, become selfish, and not consider others. When these children grow up and enter society, they will not only be unpopular with others, but will also be more easily frustrated. When they encounter difficulties, the first person they think of is "parents", and they will not want to solve the problems themselves.

3. Families that often yell at their children

Being able to control one's emotions is also a manifestation of high emotional intelligence. On the contrary, if a person is irritable and impulsive, it is mostly a manifestation of low emotional intelligence. If parents often yell at their children, then the children's personalities will become similar to their parents'. Isn't there a saying that children are the mirror of their parents?

Therefore, more and more parents now pay attention to the cultivation of their children's emotional intelligence and send their children to various early education classes so that their children can receive acquired training. In fact, parents only need to do these points, and they don’t need to have high emotional intelligence. They can still raise children with high emotional intelligence at home.

How to Raise Boys with High Emotional Intelligence

1. Be a positive parent and set an example for your children

As the saying goes, good emotions are contagious, especially the emotions of parents, which will have more or less impact on their children. Only positive and optimistic parents can raise enthusiastic and cheerful children. So complain less in front of your children, so that they can become responsible children when they grow up.

2. Help children establish a correct attitude towards life and an optimistic mood

An optimistic person, someone with a positive attitude towards life, will feel very happy. If you want to help your children develop a positive attitude towards life, parents must first lead by example. We don't need to teach our children how to educate them. We just need to be positive and optimistic in facing various things in life, which will naturally infect our children. It sounds simple, but it is difficult to do. I wonder if parents can do it.

3. Don’t spoil your children, but don’t beat or scold them excessively.

Many families have one or two children. Their parents and grandparents treat them as treasures and almost always grant their children's requests. The elders in the family spoil the children even more seriously. Some elders teach the children in the old way, which leads to some children being the kings of the school. They eat the delicious food first and play the fun things first. Some children even want to take possession of others' good things when they see them, and are self-centered. However, some family education is the opposite. Parents hope their children will become successful. They always hope that their children will do better than others. Therefore, they are very strict with their children. If they do not do well, they will beat and scold them and say to them loudly, "Why are you so stupid?" and so on.