How to educate a willful baby?

In daily life, appropriate praise of children can generally help children build correct self-confidence, but some parents tend to spoil their children too much and praise them without principles, which can easily lead to children developing a willful character. Most children will become irritable and angry when they are willful. It is normal to lose control of emotions occasionally, but if it happens frequently, it will have an impact on physical health.

The educational method of children being too willful

Not accommodating

When children are willful and noisy, do not criticize them harshly, let alone hit or scold them. Instead, you can take advantage of the situation, patiently reason with them in a positive way, and explain to them why unreasonable demands cannot be met. If the child does not listen and continues to cry, parents can adopt the cold treatment method, no persuasion, no explanation, no quarrel, let the child feel that his crying behavior is ineffective. After the child calms down, the parents can sternly point out that his willfulness is wrong and explain the reason clearly. No matter how children act naughty, parents must not be soft-hearted and must never give in to their children's rude requests.

Consistent Discipline

When children are willful, family members should maintain consistent views on educating their children. When one party criticizes the child, other family members should not come forward to defend or interfere. If adults have different opinions, they should not argue in front of children, but should discuss the matter away from children.

Rules first

If you have already understood the pattern of your child's willful behavior, you can prevent your child from acting willful by setting some rules in advance. Summarize the rules that you think are important, set the consequences for your children if they break these rules, and then tell them. If the child follows the rules, parents should praise and reward him/her in a timely manner; once the child breaks the rules, the child should bear the consequences of his/her willfulness.

Control your emotions

Many parents tend to lose control of their emotions and behaviors when disciplining their children. Uncontrolled anger will affect the effectiveness of your disciplining of your children. Therefore, when a child is willful, parents should first control their emotions and discipline the child with a calm mind. Only when the child is respected will he be willing to do what you ask of him.

Reasons for children's willfulness

Intergenerational feeding

This is very common and very Chinese. Not only do the grandparents spoil their grandchildren, but they also dare not discipline them strictly. Although many young parents are now aware of the disadvantages, they have to continue with grandparent-raising because both parties have to go to work and do not trust the babysitter.

Parents lack patience

When the child is disobedient, the parents will initially insist on the principles. However, when the child continues to do whatever he wants, the parents get annoyed and think that the child will not listen even if they have taught him. The child is still young and does not understand, and he will naturally get better when he grows up, so they no longer insist. These parents actually don’t know that young children’s self-control has not yet awakened, and most of them want to do things according to their own wishes, so parents must stick to principles. The basic principle of "you reap what you sow" is simple: if you do not fulfill your responsibility to educate your children when they are young and instead compromise, don't expect them to automatically become better in the future.

Poor self-control and impulsive

Young children have poor self-control, are easily impulsive, have one-sided and stereotyped thinking, and are therefore prone to act arbitrarily. Parents do not understand their children's psychology, and respond to all their children's unreasonable demands with scolding, beating and swearing without asking the reasons, which causes the children to develop a rebellious psychology and use stubbornness to fight against the parents' rudeness, thus encouraging the children's willful behavior.

Improper parenting style

What is the attitude of parents when children are willful, whether parents pay attention to the development of children's daily behavioral norms, etc., these are important factors that affect whether children are willful. With the improvement of living conditions and the increase in the proportion of only children, many children have become the center of the family. They can do whatever they want and lack behavioral norms and self-discipline. Some parents have strict requirements on their children in terms of knowledge, but have no requirements on personality traits, behavioral habits, social adaptability, etc., and let their children do whatever they want. This kind of parenting style will inevitably lead to negative creative behavior in young children.