What should I do if my child doesn’t listen?

Parents all hope that their children will be particularly obedient, but in fact, every child will be more or less disobedient. Parents should look at this problem objectively. This is a very normal phenomenon. If a child listens to his parents in everything, it would be a bit abnormal. So it is normal for children to be a little bit unwilling to listen. After all, children do not think about problems like adults. In addition, if the child is particularly unwilling to listen, parents can take the following methods to help improve it.

What should I do if my child doesn’t listen?

First, if the child is disobedient, you should first check whether you have subjective emotions in the process of communicating with the child. For example, if you do not allow the child to eat sweets because you do not like sweets, then you are wrong in your point of view. So, at this time, we need to eliminate our own subjective emotions.

Second, check whether the communication is inadequate, that is, what you said is not clear enough and the child does not understand what you want to express. If so, you must communicate carefully and patiently until the child understands.

Third, find out where the child’s views disagree with yours. Is it your own cognition that is problematic or the child’s? If it is the child’s cognition that is problematic, let the child understand the objective and true nature of the thing you are talking about, so that the child can agree with what you say.

Fourth, check the real reason why the child is disobedient. Some children are disobedient just to attract the attention of adults. This is an emotional need, so it is necessary to give the child more attention in daily life.

Fifth, check whether you often break your promises in front of your children, causing you to lack trust in front of your children, and making your children feel that they cannot listen to you. At this time, you need to examine yourself and gradually build a trusting relationship.

Sixth, or it may just be an emotional problem of the child. At this time, you can ask the child’s friends or people he trusts to make him obedient, understand that he is wrong, and correct himself.

Disobedience is a rebellious psychological behavior and also a signal of the baby's further growth. Once parents understand this, they will no longer blame the baby for being disobedient. On the premise of ensuring safety and respecting the baby's independence, as long as it does not harm the baby's health, do not interfere with his independent behavior at will. Do not rashly interrupt the game the baby is playing or what he is doing. Let the baby gain experience of success or failure in playing. Encourage your baby when he succeeds, and provide help or methods when he fails. But if it is an unreasonable request, it will be rejected directly. This is to prevent your baby from developing the habit of getting what he wants by crying, as he will cry even harder next time. Parents need to be more patient, communicate more with their babies, and help them establish correct concepts.