What to do if you have poor self-control

Poor self-control has a great impact on life, especially for children. It often affects their learning ability and leads to poor academic performance. There are many reasons for poor self-control. If parents do not set a good example and often lose their temper, this may affect their children's self-control. When poor self-control occurs, certain methods must be used to improve it.

When the baby is two years old, he will begin to have his own sense of autonomy. He will start to express his own ideas and try to do some "rebellious" actions. Therefore, when you tell him that this is not allowed or that is not allowed, he may not listen and he will still act arbitrarily. These are all manifestations of the baby's immaturity.

At this stage, parents should start to pay attention to cultivating their children's self-control. They should not allow their children to "do whatever they want" but should spend more time with them, hug and kiss them more, and give them a sense of security. Communicate with him, don't scold him, and patiently teach him what is dangerous. Cultivate children's sense of self-control.

2. Parents should be less angry and set a good example

A warm family atmosphere has a very important influence on children. If parents often lose their temper and quarrel in front of their children, the children will be influenced by such an atmosphere and become irritable and impatient. As the saying goes, parents are the first teachers of their children. Children often learn common sense by imitating adults during their growth process. Parents themselves have poor self-control, so how can children learn from them how to control their temper?

Therefore, parents must set a good example. When a child does something wrong, you should not lose your temper with him/her immediately. Instead, you should calmly analyze and solve the problem with him/her. Children are very smart. They will know from your behavior that they should do this, and then slowly, they will imitate you, and over time they will develop good self-control.

3. Set rules

The purpose of setting rules is to cultivate children's awareness of rules. Parents can make "three rules" with their children at home, such as eating on time, going to bed at 10 o'clock, etc. Parents should strictly supervise their children to abide by the rules. If the child thinks it is unfair, then you must identify yourself and communicate with the child that these are the rules that children must follow. Then you should tell him that adults also have some rules to follow, and you must also follow the rules. If you persist in this way for a long time, your child will naturally learn to restrain himself gradually.

Parents should not over-indulge their children, surround them all the time, help them with everything, and give them whatever they want. This will only make children more reckless and they will have no self-control at all. Li Tianyi is a typical example.

When children make requests, even if they are reasonable, parents should give them what they want in a roundabout way rather than giving it to them directly. For example, parents can let children get what they want by doing housework, so that children know that if they want to get something, they have to pay for it. In the future, your child will not be unreasonable when he wants something, but will control his temper and discuss rewards with you!

5. Parents’ educational philosophy should be consistent

When it comes to the principles of educating children, family members must have a unified idea. You can’t just say yes to the child and then have him/her snuggle into his/her grandmother’s arms to complain. There are differences between the educational concepts of the older generation and those of young parents, so parents must communicate well with their elders and use unified principles to educate their children, otherwise it will not be difficult to cultivate children's self-control ability.

When children make mistakes, parents should patiently persuade them instead of scolding or suppressing them. Of course, during the persuasion process, you can’t be the only one talking, you also have to let the child speak, let the child express his ideas, and then you can point out where the child has done wrong. This way the child will understand where he or she has done wrong. When children show good self-control behavior, parents should not be stingy with praise. They should give timely encouragement and praise to build children's self-confidence.