What to do if your child is irritable and short-tempered

As we all know, many children do not have very good control over their emotions. In life, many children have bad tempers and are easily angered. No matter how parents preach, the effect is not very significant. In fact, if you encounter children with bad temper, there are some ways to deal with it. As long as you master the methods, you can easily deal with children's bad temper. So, what should we do if children are irritable and have a bad temper?

Children have bad tempers, parents should not "fight violence with violence"

It is common to see some children crying loudly, rolling on the ground, tearing their hair or clothes, or clinging to adults' legs and refusing to leave when their parents do not satisfy their desires. These behaviors are called rage attacks. Children in the midst of a tantrum often refuse to be persuaded and remain in a stalemate unless adults meet their demands.

Problems that children have are usually related to their family. Psychology believes that there are several reasons that can easily cause children to have a bad temper: first, family disharmony. Husbands and wives often have conflicts over trivial family matters, which can lead to quarrels or fights; second, parents are very selfish and do not respect the elderly. Children will be influenced by this and develop a narrow-minded and bad character; third, parents' educational concepts are feudal and ignorant, or one of the parents has a bad temper and is arbitrary and domineering, which affects the children.

Never think that "children are born with a bad temper". Some parents even lose their temper when their children lose their temper and respond to temper with temper. This emotional approach will definitely not change a child's habit of losing temper. Some mothers think that their children are prone to temper tantrums and they cannot get over it, so they push their children to their fathers for discipline. This will make the child feel that "Mom has no way to deal with his temper" and he will get even worse and lose his temper in front of his mother.

What to do if your child has a bad temper?

Parents should communicate more with their children, understand their needs, and pay attention to their children's interactions with other children. Parents can learn more about what other children are playing, thinking, and asking for. When children make their own requests, parents can better understand their children's feelings. With guidance and patient explanations, parents can eliminate or alleviate their children's anger.

Ten ways for mothers to deal with children's bad temper

1. Discipline is not punishment

There are many reasons why children make mistakes and act naughty. The most important thing is that we need to understand clearly why children make mistakes. Children may make mistakes out of childishness, jealousy, panic, fatigue, stress, or frustration. We should spend more time playing with our children, reading books together, and building a good parent-child relationship. A deep understanding of our children's minds helps us choose appropriate discipline methods. Anticipating possible naughty behavior in children can help us prescribe the right medicine. For example, if we are afraid that our child will have a tantrum in the supermarket, before we go out, we'd better explain to him our shopping plans and what we expect from him.

2. Cold treatment is important

Don't think that children are only concerned with throwing tantrums; they are actually secretly observing your reaction. When you encounter this kind of situation, you must remain unyielding despite the might. Ignore him and make it clear to your child that you have seen through his tricks and that they won't work. In order to make the cold treatment effective, we must do a good job of ideological work among the older generation in advance and never let a "Cheng Yaojin" show up halfway. In addition, parents should remind themselves not to be infected by their children's bad temper. If the child does not listen to your advice, tell yourself that people are like this when they are angry. Give him some time to cool down.

3. Food can adjust your personality

What your children eat determines not only how much they weigh, but also how well they feel and behave. For these children, parents should pay special attention to whether they are lacking in foods rich in calcium and magnesium. Since calcium helps the conduction of nerve stimulation, a lack of calcium will prevent children's nerves from relaxing, causing mental tension and bad temper. Likewise, a lack of magnesium can interfere with nerve activity and cause irritability and nervousness. Parents can add milk, soy products, kelp, dried fish, loach, bananas, apples, nuts and dark green leafy vegetables to the diet.

4. Distract Your Attention

Many children like to act unreasonably, wanting to attract adults' attention or get certain rewards. There are many reasons for this. For example, some children do not like to brush their teeth, so every time they brush their teeth, they will deliberately make trouble or make noise; some children do not let their parents leave, and even if their parents are in a hurry to go to work, they just don’t let them wait. When dealing with young children, the approach of reasoning as taught in the books is definitely not feasible. Children care more about their own feelings, and if you force them to submit with a tough attitude, both adults and children will be very angry. A better way is to find ways to divert his attention, giving him a sense of freshness without violating the parents' principles.