What to do if your child doesn't like to talk

On days with good weather, parents like to take their children out for a walk, let their children get close to nature and play with other children. Some parents find that their children are a bit introverted and don’t like to talk when they go out, which makes parents very worried. If children are introverted, it will have an impact on their growth process. So what should we do if our children don’t like to talk? Parents can take a look at some methods on how to guide children.

1. How to guide an introverted child to become extrovert?

1. First of all, parents should not make a fuss about their children’s shyness.

A shy child may seem awkward around strangers. The first thing you need to do as a parent is not to think this is a serious problem. If the child is determined not to say hello to others, parents should not keep asking the child to do so, let alone often say to the child, "You are such a shy child," or even compare the child with other children.

2. Let your children experience the beauty of life

Take your child out of the house often and let him interact with other people. Take him to the park to watch children flying kites and grandparents practicing Tai Chi among the crowd; join some mothers' clubs, dine with children, slide down the slide, play with building blocks, etc. Take your children with you to discover more fun and joyful places in life, and they will fall in love with them involuntarily. Slowly, the shyness will fade away on its own.

3. Give your child enough time to prepare

Parents should spend more time guiding their children and help them adapt to interacting with others. Before taking your child to play with other children, don't repeatedly urge him/her by saying things like "Remember to say hello to others today." This will not only increase the child's psychological burden, but also make him rebellious. If your child doesn't want to say goodbye before leaving, you can say to him/her: "Mom knows you're not ready to say goodbye, right? It's okay, we'll say it next time." This will ease the child's nervousness.

4. Let your child play with other children more often

If there is a kindergarten or a place where children gather to play near your home, parents may wish to bring their children to join in. This allows children to fully experience the joy of playing with other children of the same age. Maybe at the beginning the child will follow you closely, but gradually he will try to join the group of children. However, if the child wants to leave, do not force him to stay. Only by making the child feel relaxed and natural can it help alleviate his shyness.

5. Play more social games

Parents can often play such games with their children at home. For example, you can simulate a shopping trip, with you as the shopkeeper and your children as the customers. Or play a game where a policeman asks a pedestrian for directions. This will allow children to become familiar with the various social scenarios encountered in life, and they can also learn more social etiquette and become bolder.

2. Are children born introverted?

Do you know what causes children to be introverted? Do you really think this is innate? NO! Haven't you ever thought that it might be caused by improper parenting?

According to experts' opinions, there may be several reasons. Parents can reflect on whether you have made similar mistakes in the process of raising your children.

1. Lack of social interaction. Some parents seldom take their children out to play, so they have little contact with others and lack exercise.

2. Too much criticism. Children are bound to make mistakes, so don't criticize them all the time.

3. If we do too much for children, their autonomy will not be developed, which will make them doubt their abilities and become timid.

In short, when your child always likes to lower his head when speaking, his voice seems particularly small, and he blushes easily, parents should not ignore it. A baby's shy personality will have a certain impact on his or her social skills when he or she grows up. Therefore, parents should encourage their children in life and give them courage to take active actions.