The impact of divorce on children

The psychological impact of divorce on children

Inferiority complex

In the case of divorce, many children are sensitive and cannot accept it for a while, which easily leads to inferiority complex. In the eyes of children, their parents are omnipotent and the most amazing people. But if there is no father and mother in a family, the children will lose a certain sense of superiority and inferiority complex will naturally arise. It can be manifested in sadness, withdrawn personality, negative spirit and lack of self-confidence.

Suspicion

Divorced families can cause great psychological harm to children, and the divorce of their parents is the greatest harm to children. When a family lacks warmth and children are neglected, they begin to doubt that their parents do not love them and that their classmates will look down on them. Having such thoughts deep in their hearts will prevent children from getting along well with others and create disharmony.

Reverse Psychology

It was originally a happy and warm family of three, and they were happy regardless of their family conditions. The sudden divorce of parents will cause inferiority complex and suspicion, which can easily lead to a rebellious mentality in the child, making her, who has always been well-behaved and obedient, suddenly develop a resistance and conflict.

Compensation

Divorce has a great impact on children's psychology. Because of divorce, children will suffer material or spiritual losses, so they will envy other children and hope for their parents' love and attention. Therefore, the desire to obtain material and spiritual life makes them have a compensatory mentality.

How to reduce the harmful effects of divorce on children

Tell your child you love her forever

When two people divorce, they should sit down together and tell their children the news. They should tell the news sincerely and simply, and directly tell the child that "it's better for mom and dad not to live together because it's difficult for them to get along" to get the child's understanding, but they must remind the child that their love and care for her will not decrease because of the divorce.

Telling people around you about your divorce

After divorce, this news should also be told to the child's teachers, neighbors and friends around you, so that they will also tell you about the child's changes and other situations, which will be better and more realistic for the child's growth environment.

Maintain your child's routine

After a divorce, the child may become interested in things such as his or her future living environment, such as who he or she will live with after the divorce, whether he or she needs to change schools, who will accompany him or her to various school activities, etc. Therefore, after divorce, it is best to try to maintain your child's normal life and take your child to participate in various activities organized by the school.

Encourage your child to talk about his or her feelings

When facing their parents’ divorce, children face no less psychological pressure than adults, so children should be encouraged to express their thoughts and ideas to prevent them from developing a repressed and silent resistance. If you can't express it verbally, you can express it in words. Sharing your child's feelings is beneficial to his mental health.

Don't let your children join the fight

Children should not be allowed to join in quarrels between adults, nor should adults speak ill of each other in front of children. They should not fight for issues such as the children's education and custody in front of children. Children should not be forced to choose a side, as this will make children more distressed and increase psychological trauma. After all, in the hearts of children, both parents are indispensable.

Put your children first

When it comes to details like property and custody in a divorce, children should be put first. If custody lasts for a long time, it can have a serious impact on the children's psychology. Therefore, after divorce, you should maintain a friendly relationship for the sake of your children.