What to do if your child loves to lie

The ancients said that man is inherently good at birth. Children know nothing from a young age, but they have strong learning abilities. Parents are the most important teachers for their children. Sometimes when parents do something, children will just follow their parents’ example and learn certain behaviors without judging whether it is right or not. If you find that you are wrong, you should correct it in time, otherwise it will bring serious consequences. Children sometimes tell lies. How should parents teach them at this time?

Why do children lie?

1. Fear of being scolded by parents or teachers

Some parents scold or beat their children when they do something wrong. Children are afraid of being scolded or fighting, so they cover up their mistakes with lies. This disguise is forgiven by parents or teachers, so when they make three mistakes for the second time, they lie and ask for forgiveness.

2. Escapism

Sometimes children don't want to do or can't do something, they call it a headache! Stomachache! Deceiving parents or teachers with all kinds of lies, such lies often get sympathy from parents or teachers, and then they are often blamed.

3. Get people’s attention

In particular, when they find that this method is effective, they will continue to lie to get the most attention. For example, if you find that she can lie to get your attention, then she may do the same next time.

4. Imitate adults

Some parents often lie and even ask their children to lie to others. In this way, children will naturally lie. Their personality and moral qualities are far better than any preaching. For such lies, parents should start with themselves and be honest and trustworthy.

What should parents do when their children lie?

1. Determine whether the child is really lying

Parents should not subjectively assume that their children are lying, which will seriously hurt their children and may even leave psychological trauma on them. After discovering that their children are lying, do not easily assert that the children are bad, and find out whether the children are really lying.

2. Reward and punish children objectively and reasonably

For children who dare to tell the truth, rewards should be given; children's mistakes should not be treated negatively, such as scolding, reprimanding, punishment, etc. When he finds a child lying, he must calm down and not jump like thunder, or even increase the force of punishing the child, making the child more afraid. Some parents will also take punitive measures such as beating and scolding after the child admits his mistake, and even ask the child to write a review guarantee on the wall, which seriously damages the child's self-esteem and often backfires.

3. Communicate with your children

Children will open their hearts to their parents at any time. Even if they do something wrong, parents should communicate with their children and let them know that lying is wrong. If they make mistakes, parents will tell them how to deal with them better.

4. Praise your child for telling the truth.

When encountering problems, encourage children to tell the truth and praise them, so that they can feel that their parents can help them solve problems that they cannot solve themselves. Encouraging good behavior will lead to more good performance in children.

5. Parents should set a good example

It should be common for parents to lie in front of their children. A lie may not be a big deal to adults, but children often see it as a real lie. Studies have shown that most children will be influenced by their parents to lie or not keep their promises. Therefore, if you want to build a foundation of honesty in your children's young hearts, first of all, set a good example for him.