What should I do if my child in the first grade of junior high school doesn’t want to go to school?

Children are generally very well-behaved and honest when they are in elementary school, but after entering junior high school, they become very rebellious because they enter puberty. At this time, they are prone to develop a dislike for school and refuse to study at all. Many parents have encountered this situation and they are quite helpless and very upset. So, what should parents do if their children do not go to school?

The order to solve the problem is: first, see if the child has the personality traits that determine why the child hates school. Because only children like this need to be taken seriously if they are tired of studying.

Then see if the child's unwillingness to go to school is serious. If it is mild school aversion, seeing this, there must be many parents who will ask, what kind of situation is mild school aversion? In order to better help parents and friends accurately grasp this opportunity, I will briefly introduce the specific manifestations of mild school aversion: children who used to like school and go to school very much and go to school very consciously, now always procrastinate before going to school, and like to say after school: School is boring, I really don’t want to go to school; after returning home, they always say: I am so tired, so annoyed, so annoyed; they say this in their mouths, but they can still insist on going to school on time every day. At this time, you must not be careless, and don’t simply think that the child is just talking casually, and the child will not not go to school; some parents will even think by chance that my family conditions are so good, we are good at educating children, school aversion will not happen in my family, and my children will not be tired of school. Little did people know that the parents of children who were receiving psychological adjustment for their school aversion at our Shenguan Psychological Counseling Center’s Youth Base also thought this way.

At this time, you must calm down and have a good communication with your child. The best time to communicate is when the child is relatively stable. Ask the child, what has happened to bother you recently? Why do you always feel tired? Do you think your parents did something wrong? Are you angry with someone at school? Has your academic performance declined? Have you encountered any stimulation or frustration? Etc. If the child is unwilling to communicate with the parents and is unwilling to tell the parents, it means that there are major problems in communication between the parents and the child. This situation must be taken seriously by the parents and resolved; it is best to find a more professional psychological teacher in time to help you quickly establish a close relationship. After establishing an intimate relationship, you can then find out the triggers and underlying causes of the problem.

If the child is willing to communicate, actively help the child solve the problem after finding it. Do not support preaching, because children of this age have more mature thinking, and many children actually understand the truths their parents preach. Do not support parents making long speeches at this time, and even less support parents asking outsiders who they think are authoritative and capable to participate in persuasion, because such children do not like others to know too much about their problems, and are even more reluctant to exaggerate things. They also care about their image and face in the eyes of others.

Remember, no matter whether normal communication is possible or not, never use violence. Not only will it not help, it will also cause secondary harm to the child, which will only make it more difficult to solve the problem.