The impact of a father's bad temper on his children

Many parents hope that their children will have a happy childhood, but some parents have very gentle tempers, while some parents have very bad tempers. In fact, parents’ tempers have a great impact on their children, especially fathers’ tempers. Bad temper is also a kind of heredity. Therefore, it is best for fathers to control their temper. So what are the effects of fathers’ bad temper on children?

The most thrilling scene in the family is that the child has a bad temper and the father has an even worse temper. When the father and son both lost their tempers, the whole house seemed like it was about to be turned upside down. Bad temper is also a kind of "gene". If the father loses his temper when dealing with something unpleasant, the child will imitate him.

If a child has a bad temper either because he is spoiled, then he is influenced by his parents. Children are the shadows of their parents. Children learn very well through imitation. If the father has a bad temper and hits and scolds his child at every turn, the child is likely to be the same, or even to a worse degree.

If a father loses his temper when something goes wrong, his children will also use the same method to vent when they encounter similar situations in the future.

Of course, there is another situation where the father and the child have two extremes in their personalities. If the father is violent and irritable, the child will develop a humble and cowardly character out of fear, becoming less lively and less talkative, which is not conducive to building self-confidence. If this continues for a long time, the child's psychological development will be imperfect, and in serious cases it may cause psychological trauma or even psychological problems.

Therefore, fathers should especially control their temper in front of their children so as not to affect their children. Every person with a bad temper has also been troubled and hurt others, but they just can't control it. If the father has already developed the habit, he should educate the child more and let him understand the harm of temper.

Finally, for fathers with a bad temper, when they are with their children, they must know how to control their emotions, learn to communicate with their children, and solve problems patiently, instead of getting angry at every turn. This will really hurt your children.

In the following five situations, has the child’s father been affected?

1. Mobile phones are "true love"

There is a "net celebrity" essay written by an elementary school student on the Internet. It roughly describes the status of a father at home and how the mobile phone is his better friend. In fact, this reflects the status of many families. People nowadays have a close relationship with their mobile phones. Sometimes they even neglect to communicate with people around them when playing with their mobile phones. Accompanying children does not just mean being at home or being with them. It is more about interaction, interaction with children. Sometimes some fathers would say, I have turned down social engagements and stayed at home, but the children have nothing to say to me. They just stay at home playing with their mobile phones, and the children do not feel loved. Over time, they and the children become "silent".

2. Busy with work and social activities

This situation is actually very common. Dads have to bear the financial burden of the entire family, so it is understandable that they are busy with work. Sometimes they have to socialize or go to parties after work, so they usually get home very late and the children have already gone to bed. This gives the children the impression that they are distant from their father and feel that it is difficult for them to see their father. Some children may lack a sense of security because of this.

3. “Machoism”

A chauvinistic father thinks that taking care of children, washing clothes and cooking are all things women should do, and that educating the children is also left to the mother. This is actually very irresponsible to the children. The roles of fathers and mothers are different, and the education the children receive is also different. If such ideas are imparted to children, it will have more negative effects on the children.

4. Refusing to play with children

Compared to mothers who accompany their children all the time, no matter in daily life or playing with children, some fathers do not want to play with their children. Sometimes they are unwilling to even go out with the family of three. Maybe it is because they are tired or maybe they think it is childish and think that the children do not understand. In fact, the children will feel that their fathers do not love them, which is a kind of harm to the children's hearts.

5. The "irritable" dad often quarrels with the mom

Some fathers have a quick temper and often yell and quarrel in front of their children at home, which has a great negative impact on the children. This will cause the children to become silent, introverted, unwilling to express themselves, and deal with things negatively, which is not conducive to the children's growth.