How to teach a child to lie?

Parents are particularly troubled when their children lie, but parents must pay attention to it during this period, because generally children will feel uncomfortable when they lie for the first time, and if they get away with it, it will have a great impact on their future.

Strategy:

1. Replace harsh punishment with care and acceptance

Overly harsh punishment sometimes fails to eliminate children's lying behavior. On the contrary, it may cause children to continue lying for fear of being punished, or damage the parent-child relationship or even hurt the child's self-esteem.

Therefore, when dealing with children's lying behavior, parents can use a warm and accepting attitude, patiently guide their children, and try to make them understand that mom and dad are dealing with the matter, not the person, to avoid destroying the child's entire value because of problematic behavior. Parents can also tell their children: "Even if you make mistakes, you still have the opportunity to correct them, and you are still the baby in your parents' hearts," so that children can safely express the thoughts and needs behind their behavior.

2. Understand and reflect your child’s inner feelings

After a child makes a mistake, he or she will inevitably feel uneasy and afraid of being blamed by adults. If parents blame and criticize the child's behavior based on their own values, the child may be even more afraid to speak out his or her true thoughts.

If parents can try to understand the feelings behind their children's behavior, empathize and reflect on them, for example: "You think you are worried that mom and dad will find out you did this, and you are afraid that mom and dad will punish you, but I know you didn't mean it. Can you tell mom and dad..." When the parents can understand the child's inner thoughts, they will naturally be more willing to express their inner feelings and thoughts, and parents will be able to deduce the reasons behind the child's lies.

3. Pay more attention and care to your children

Sometimes children lie because they feel inferior because their academic achievements or behavioral performance are not as good as others, so they lie to satisfy themselves or get praise from others; parents are usually too busy and ignore their children, or are too partial to children with better performance, so children may lie to attract their parents' attention or get praise.