What to do if your child is very stubborn? Solve the mother's troubles

Children in today's families are usually spoiled, especially when brought up by their elders, who will dote on them even more. Over time, the children will become very stubborn, which gives their parents a headache. To deal with such children, you might as well try the cold and substitution methods, which will make the children slowly become obedient.

1. The "cold method" is to ignore the child's unreasonable demands and resolutely not make concessions , otherwise the child will become more and more demanding. If you buy him a toy that he shouldn’t have this time, he will ask you to pick stars from the sky next time. To deal with a child who is acting unreasonably in a store, when he sits on the ground crying, ignore him and just walk away. I believe that preschool children do not have the courage to go "against" their parents in an unfamiliar environment. After returning home, you will continue to ignore him, lock him in his room to reflect, let him cry and make a fuss, and ignore him. Before long, the child will feel inexplicably lonely and regret his or her behavior. At this time, the parents "let" the child out, explain clearly why the toy cannot be bought, and tell him that his behavior is a manifestation of ignorance of rules, which makes the parents angry and sad, and asks him "not to do it again next time."

2. "Substitution method" means that parents should try every means to divert their children's attention with other things . Sometimes, children are willful and insist on doing something, but due to some restrictions, parents cannot meet their children's requests. At this time, parents should adopt the "substitution method" to meet some of their children's demands.

For example, when it’s time to go out and play every day, it suddenly starts to rain heavily, but the children are ignorant and insist on going out to play. In order to reduce the child's sense of disappointment and prevent the child from crying and making a fuss when he or she becomes stubborn, the mother can discuss with the child and use an indoor game instead, for example, "Let's play hide-and-seek or build blocks." In this way, replacing a "request" with a "suggestion" neither completely obeys the child nor partially satisfies the child's needs, killing two birds with one stone.