When the baby got up, the mother's behavior actually hurt the child!

For parents, waking up their children in the morning is a difficult task. Especially in the fall and winter, it’s easy to get impatient over time. Take a "lethal wake-up call"? Let me tell you, this actually has a great impact on the child’s mood for the day.

Let’s take a look at what “lethal wake-up” means?

Use the method of waking up to cut off the startup process and let the person regain consciousness immediately. This rough approach will have a very bad influence on children. It can cause a range of neurological or psychological problems, such as loss of emotional control, impulsiveness, irritability, depression, slow reaction, lack of concentration, aggression, indifference, or crying. Therefore, do not use these common wrong ways to wake your children up, as serious problems may be fatal!

Common mistakes

1. Run into the room and yell

You know, it is human nature to be attached to the bed and to subconscious dreams. The accusatory waking-up behavior and language such as "it's wrong to sleep at a certain time" can easily take away the child's sense of security when sleeping. Coupled with the loud noise that wakes people up, it is enough to destroy everyone's happy morning.

2. Pull the child's quilt away

This method not only seriously destroys the child's sleep safety, but the change in temperature will suddenly attack the nervous system. Even if the other person sits up "whoosh", his limbs will be stiff. Therefore, it is not recommended to move anything that the child has held, hugged, or covered with while sleeping. That is the environment where he feels safe, don't touch it!

3. Patting the child’s body without any tenderness

When waking someone up, a rough "slap" can be extremely damaging. Under the control of our subconscious mind, humans will not only be startled but will also fight back when faced with a sudden physical "attack." In many sleep experiments, "slapping" is the worst way to wake up, which will immediately anger a docile sheep!

4. Repeated nagging and constant calling

Some parents will use the method of waking up their children every 5 minutes. This seems to give the children some "start-up time", but in fact, the children are constantly interrupted by your waking up when completing the switching and starting process, and they have to start over every time, so the more you wake them up, the harder it is for them to wake up. In fact, when a person who is sleeping receives the "get up" signal for the first time, although he seems to be still asleep, his brain has actually already started switching. There is no need to call him repeatedly; he will naturally get up after the process is completed.

5. Wake up to life noise

Some parents do not wake up their children on purpose, but use the noise made after they get up to wake up their children, such as the sound of walking, washing face and brushing teeth, the friction of washbasin, talking... Although this method will not wake up the dreamer, it will make the child disgusted, because in the process of switching and starting, the brain's work is constantly interrupted by noise and cannot be completed in a safe and quiet environment, resulting in irritable waking up and "morning grumpiness".

The right way to wake up

1. Advance notice

Tell your child the night before that you will wake him up in time the next morning so that he can be mentally prepared in advance. If your child is already used to being called by you, no special reminders are needed. But if the time changes, for example, from 7:00 to 6:30, it is better to say: "I will call you half an hour earlier tomorrow!"

2. Light

If you have a dimmable desk lamp, you can gradually turn it up, then leave it on and quietly walk away. Light will wake him up for you, because humans have been awakened by light since ancient times. Light will awaken the visual system, which will transmit signals to the subconscious mind, wake up the brain, and activate the limbs. This is the most natural way to wake up. It's safe and effective, and requires no effort on your part. If you don't have such a lamp at home, slowly and quietly opening the curtains will be just as effective.

3. Breakfast aroma

Put the fragrant breakfast quietly on the bedside table. The fragrance will pass through the child's olfactory system and gently convey the signal to the brain that "it's time to get up and eat." Of course, this effect can also be achieved by using fresh flowers with a pleasant scent.

4. Music

Please choose some soothing music and play it at a lower volume to send signals to the brain through the auditory system to wake it up. It would also be nice if there were some special ambient sounds, such as the sound of birds singing or the gurgling of a stream.

5. Caress

This method can be used for children who sleep deeply and are difficult to wake up. But remember to be gentle and slow. And the order of caressing should start from the hands, then to the forearms, upper arms, cheeks... If the quilt is thick, touch the hands or forearms through the quilt. When the child slowly moves and opens his eyes, look at him with a smile and say "Get up!" and you're done. It’s best if your hands are warm and soft. Cold and stiff hands will have the opposite effect.

6. Gentle Call

Start by lightly touching your child's bed so that your child can feel the small touch. For example, put your hands on the bed first, or sit on the edge of the bed first. Then call the child's name in a low voice and say, "Do you want to get up now?" Asking the child's opinion will make the sleeping child feel safe and cared for. When the child opens his eyes slightly and nods, give him a smile, then walk away quietly and let the child complete the start-up without interference.

7. Use the same method

When parents find a way to wake up their child that satisfies each other, please stick with it and don't change the method for no reason. Forming a habit of waking your child up will not only help you wake him up successfully every time, but will also help foster your child's love and attachment to you.