It's the parents' fault that their children have early puberty

Some children are 5 to 6 years old and still stick to their parents to sleep. In fact, it is best for children to sleep alone after they are 3 years old. Some experts point out that if children sleep with their parents for a long time, it is easy to cause precocious puberty in children.

1. Parents sleeping with their children for too long can easily lead to precocious puberty

If a child sleeps in the same bed with his parents for a long time, he will inevitably come into contact with his parents' bodies. For a 2-year-old child, this touch may produce a psychological feeling of security and warmth. But for an older child, it may cause a natural physiological reaction, and sexual life between parents also has a negative impact on the child. Many parents are afraid that their children will be scared or restless when sleeping alone at night, so they put their children on the big bed to sleep with them. This may be good for young babies, but it should be avoided for older children to avoid adverse effects on their physical and mental health.

2. At what age should children sleep in separate beds?

Since it is not appropriate for parents to sleep in the same bed with their children for a long time, but the children are too young to kick off the quilt when they sleep, when is it more appropriate to sleep in separate beds from the baby? If the child sleeps in the same bed with his parents, it is best to sleep in a separate bed from his parents before the child is 3 years old. Children around 3 years old already have initial gender awareness, which means they can tell whether they are boys or girls. This is an important stage in a child's psychological development. Children at this stage have a sense of independence and a certain degree of self-care ability, and can dress and undress by themselves. If children always rely on their parents, it will hinder the development of their independence. At the beginning, the baby may be afraid of the dark or unwilling to sleep in a separate bed from his parents for various reasons. At this time, it is recommended that the mother chat with the baby or tell him a story before he goes to bed, and leave a night light on when he goes to bed at night, so that the child will feel more secure.

3. There are many benefits for children to sleep in separate beds

Sleeping in separate beds can cultivate children's ability to live independently, make children realize that they have "grown up", and learn to do things within their ability, such as preparing for bed, covering themselves with quilts, and getting up in the morning by themselves. After getting used to taking care of themselves, children will be more receptive to other behavioral norms, which is very helpful for forming an independent personality. Moreover, sleeping in separate beds can help children overcome their fear of the dark and monsters, and become braver and less dependent on others!

4. Parents and children should avoid excessive physical contact in daily life

In life, we often see children who are almost as tall as their mothers, but are still asked to hold hands with their mothers or kiss their mothers on the cheeks. Although the son and his mother have a good relationship, if the child has grown up and still has too much intimate behavior, it can easily lead to an abnormal attachment relationship. As children grow up, mothers should appropriately reduce intimate behaviors, such as excessive kissing, hugging or touching the body. Maybe the baby may feel for a moment that his mother doesn’t love him anymore, so he doesn’t want to be hugged. Although mothers should be more careful about being too affectionate with their children, they still need to let their babies feel your love and care so as not to deprive them of their sense of security. Therefore, it is recommended that mothers gradually reduce the behavior rather than stopping it suddenly. Let the child gradually realize that he has grown up and does not need his mother to treat him like a baby. Even so, his mother still loves him. This can also effectively reduce his attachment to his mother and is of great help to the child's normal sexual and psychological development.

Tips to help your child adjust to sleeping in separate beds:

1. Ensure safety

When letting your child sleep alone, make sure the bed is not too high from the ground to ensure that the child will not be in danger if he or she accidentally falls to the ground. If the mother is worried that the child will kick off the quilt, she can choose suitable pajamas for him and choose quilts of different thicknesses as the temperature changes.

2. Not alone before going to bed

For children with a strong attachment mentality and those who are prone to loneliness, you can give them more caress and spend more time with them before they go to bed, tell them some nice stories to help them fall asleep happily, and often take care of them at night so that they don't feel lonely. In the initial stage of separate beds, if the child is afraid of the dark, you can install a night light next to the bed and turn it off after he (she) gradually adapts.

3. Don’t show mercy when your child is naughty

When they first sleep in separate beds, some children take a lot of effort to get their parents settled, but they turn around and run back to their parents' bed. Or when they wake up in the middle of the night, they sneak into their parents' bed and refuse to leave. When faced with such a situation, parents cannot be soft-hearted, otherwise all their efforts will be wasted. Parents should patiently persuade their children to return to their bed and say more encouraging words. If that doesn't work, they can accompany their children to fall asleep again before leaving.