When praising children, try to avoid using "you are awesome"

Key points: "Baby is great", this kind of praise is very familiar to parents. However, casual praise from parents may also bring negative effects, until one day, they find that their children have become afraid of failure and cannot withstand the slightest setback.

There is a very appropriate metaphor about praising children - "Praise, like penicillin, should never be used casually because it may cause an allergic reaction."

1. Praise the specifics instead of the whole

"Baby, you're great," this kind of praise is very familiar to parents. In the eyes of parents, every detail of their child’s growth is worthy of admiration and praise—the baby can laugh, the baby can turn over, the baby can jump, the baby can talk... It is in this constant surprise that parents have become accustomed to saying "Great!" "That's great!" to their children.

However, casual praise from parents may also bring negative effects, until one day, they find that their children have become afraid of failure and cannot withstand the slightest setback.

Therefore, avoid praising children in a general way. Targeted and specific praise will make it easier for them to understand and know what they should do and how to work hard in the future.

2. Praise hard work instead of intelligence

"You are so smart!" - Another common comment made by parents. If parents define every progress of their children as "smart", the result will only be that their children will think that good grades are equal to intelligence. On the one hand, they will become "arrogant" rather than "confident", and on the other hand, they will avoid challenges because they do not want to produce results that are inconsistent with their intelligence.

3. Praise the facts instead of the personality

Phrases like "good baby" are typical "compliments on personality" and parents will say them unintentionally. But "good" is a very abstract concept. If a child is always labeled with such a big label, it will actually be a kind of pressure on him.

If parents' praise is always "exaggerated", children will feel pressured and feel that they do not deserve such praise. What will they do? When you just finished praising them, they will do something that will give you a headache to show their "sincerity".

Try praising your child like this

● Helpful compliments: I like your card; it’s beautiful and funny.

How the child feels: I have good taste and I can trust my choices.

●Helpful compliments: Thank you so much for washing the dishes today.

(Child’s feeling): I am very responsible.

Unhelpful praise: You do it better than everyone else.

Descriptive sentences and the positive conclusions children draw from them are the cornerstones of mental health.

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