The child suddenly stopped talking

Many parents will find that their originally lively and cheerful children will suddenly become quiet as they grow older. This situation is actually very common. Because they do not feel cared for, and as the life around them changes, these may cause children to become quiet. Parents can restore their children as long as they guide them reasonably and patiently.

Problem Description: Unwilling to socialize

Key strategies: Psychological weaning problem diagnosis, let nature take its course

Some young children are unwilling to interact with their peers. Even when they are outside, they only hang out with adults and don’t take the initiative to look for other children to play with. Some even adopt an "avoidance policy" when their companions actively approach them. There may be three reasons why these young children are unwilling to socialize.

1. Lack of motivation for communication. Some families are child-centered, meeting their children's needs almost unconditionally, and there is always someone to play with the children. When young children are always accompanied by someone, it is difficult for them to develop the motivation to find a playmate. Some young children are only willing to interact with adults because adults always give in to them. When interacting with their peers, they need to coordinate, discuss, and even find ways to resolve conflicts. In order to "save trouble", they would rather interact with adults.

For this type of young children, parents should "psychologically wean" them as early as possible. In other words, the family should not be centered on children, but on "equality for all." When the child is about 3 years old and has a certain degree of independence, he should be given a simple schedule to let him understand that family members have times to get together, and times to work and play separately, and they should not interfere with each other. The early implementation of "psychological weaning" for young children not only helps them to develop the motivation to interact with their peers, but is also a "key strategy" to promote their independent development. Practice has shown that early "psychological weaning" can also help shorten the duration of "separation anxiety" that young children experience when they first enter kindergarten.

2. Have had failed relationship experiences. Some young children are unwilling to interact with their peers because they have had negative interaction experiences, such as being bullied by their peers. They adopt avoidance strategies in order to protect themselves from harm. For such problems, parents should observe carefully, find out the crux of the problem, and then "prescribe the right medicine." If a child has been bullied by his peers, parents may as well take the child to interact with his peers two or three times to "build up courage" for the child. When the child learns communication skills and experiences the joy of communication, parents can withdraw.