What to do if your child lacks a sense of security

In real life, children often give people the impression of being innocent, lively and cute. Carefree has become synonymous with children. However, children sometimes have their own troubles. For example, children also lack a sense of security. Do you think this is credible? So, how do children react when they feel insecure? The following is an introduction to you.

American psychologist Erikson believes that babies between 0 and 1.5 years old are in a period of psychological conflict between trust and distrust. When they cry, are hungry, or feel unwell, whether their parents appear in time is the basis for them to establish a sense of security and trust in the world. If children do not always receive timely, regular and stable feedback, they will always worry that their needs are not met. Therefore, they often cry and make noises in various ways to attract adults' attention. If things go on like this, they will develop a behavior pattern of crying and pestering adults. Crying does not necessarily mean physical discomfort, but rather mental discomfort, because the child has not established a sense of psychological security in the outside world.

Therefore, in the psychological development process of infants aged 0-3, the most likely problem, which will have a profound impact on the future, is whether they have established a good sense of psychological security. What is secure attachment?

To be more precise, "sense of security" is the sense of attachment to security. Attachment refers to the strong emotional bond formed between an infant and his or her closest caregiver. Babies are born with the emotional need to attach themselves to someone close to them, usually their mother. Starting from around 6 months, babies develop an attachment to their mothers. This emotional connection is not only what mothers need, but is also the key to the healthy mental health of their babies. Generally speaking, a child's attachment is mainly manifested in a series of behaviors with fixed tendencies - wanting to get close to someone;

Feel nervous or anxious when separated from the person; feel happy or relaxed when reunited with the person;

Even without close contact, I like to listen to his voice and observe his words and actions.

Psychology attaches great importance to the establishment of an infant's early sense of security because it plays an extremely important role in the individual's mental health development throughout his life. Therefore, parents should consciously become the best attachment object for their children and actively respond to all their needs - hunger, anxiety, joy, curiosity, so that their children can build trust and a sense of security in the world around them.

In fact, children also need a sense of security. Parents should understand their children better. Being able to create a good growth environment for children is crucial to their future. Therefore, when the baby needs care, if parents can give it in time, it is like building a cozy nest in his heart, making his mind full of security and growing up healthily both physically and mentally.