How many of the three major shortcomings in educating babies do you have?

When educating your baby, there are many things that you "take for granted" that are actually wrong, and very wrong. It is these taken-for-granted behaviors that kill the child's deepest innocence. Don’t use your authority to scare your baby... Don’t make your child look good, etc.... Let’s learn about this together!

Parents’ authority is not based on “fear”

When mom got off work and opened the door, she saw Duoduo eating dinner and watching TV, playing with a lot of toys in his hands. Grandma followed Duoduo with a bowl of rice in her hand.

Putting down the backpack, the mother started to talk: "Duoduo, I just saw the policeman downstairs. He told me that he was looking for babies who didn't eat seriously and wanted to take them to the police station. Are you afraid of the policeman? If you don't listen, I will send you to the police station and lock you up!"

After dinner, mother saw Duoduo was so excited playing that he ran around the community and sweated a lot. Mom said again: "Duoduo, the doctor is coming to catch you! Come here quickly and put on your clothes. Otherwise, I will ask you to go to the hospital for an injection!"

Comment: In life, some parents use the authority of special professions such as "policeman", "doctor", "thief", etc. to "threaten" their children to eat and sleep. It may work temporarily, but in the long run, children will not only develop a fear of these professions, but also a sense of insecurity.

When children are disobedient, parents always can't help but show off their adult authority, using force, orders, and intimidation, but these are not good ways of communication. Why don’t parents make up a cute little story, or find some smarter methods based on their children’s temperament and preferences? If you communicate with your children with more patience and childlike interest, they will be more receptive.

Don't give your child a chance to show his or her worth

Lele is making sand piles with her mother. Sometimes they fetch water, sometimes they pile up soil, and the parent-child atmosphere is full of joy. At this time, a little friend came over and wanted to borrow a shovel. Before Lele could react, her mother started talking: "Lele, can you lend it to your brother? Lele, be good, good things should be shared with everyone. Mom told you to be generous..." After a long speech, the mother gave the shovel to her companion. Where is Kelele? He turned and walked away.

Comment: When children are older and parents take them out to play, they naturally hope that their children will make them proud. However, Lele’s mother’s behavior actually interfered with the children’s independent interactions and caused Lele to lose an opportunity to practice interacting with his peers.

Smart parents always stand behind their children. When encountering similar problems, parents may wish to wait and observe the child's reaction first. If the child is happy to lend the shovel to the other party, immediately hug the child and tell the child: "You are great!" If the child is unwilling to lend, you can join in at an appropriate time and guide him to interact with his peers correctly.

A group of children are playing in the ocean ball pool. A brother slid down the slide nearby quickly and skillfully, and with a "bang", he lay in the ball pool. At this time, the mothers who were chatting nearby came over and took their babies out of the ball pool while mumbling. Suddenly, only two or three older kids were left in the ball pool.

Comment: Seeing the older child "rudely" "barging" into the ocean ball pool, the mothers who were chatting nearby quickly took "protective" measures and carried their babies out. Parents use their own expectations to protect their children's bodies, but they destroy their children's precious learning environment.

The parents are concerned about their children, but on the surface they walk to the ball pool calmly. You can guide your baby to applaud the older brother, and the older child will not act too recklessly when he sees that the parents are around. What’s more, most interactions between children are harmless, so parents can “protect them secretly” without destroying the pleasant atmosphere.