Parents must understand the causes of children's rebellious psychology

In addition to physical health, mental health is also very important for children's healthy growth. The rebellious psychology is undoubtedly a stumbling block to children's mental health, and it also troubles many parents and friends because they don't know how to educate their children. Therefore, parents and friends should understand the reasons for the formation of children's rebellious psychology, and then effectively prevent the formation of rebellious psychology.

For children, every growth process is representative, and many parents will encounter their children's rebellious psychology. At this time, many parents should be concerned about the reasons for the formation of children's rebellious psychology, and then they can start to improve the rebellious psychology.

The causes of children's rebellious psychology

1. Unrealistic expectations

Most parents nowadays are eager to see their sons and daughters become successful. They often ignore their children's own qualities and abilities, do not consider their interests and hobbies, and force their children to accept the blueprint they have painstakingly designed and insist on them to do things that are difficult to achieve at the moment. The result can only be counterproductive or even nothing achieved. This kind of forcing children to grow up too fast can easily cause oppositional emotions in children. The correct approach should be that parents' requirements should be slightly higher than their children's actual abilities, allowing them to "jump to pick the fruit from the tree" so that they can complete the task satisfactorily after their efforts and enjoy the joy of success. In this way, children will continue to enhance their self-confidence and sense of accomplishment.

2. Being too strict will damage children’s self-esteem

Nowadays, some parents are still full of the idea that "beating is the only way to make a child successful". They believe that "strictness" means corporal punishment and rarely consider children's self-esteem. They casually expose children's shortcomings in front of outsiders and even satirize and ridicule them, and sometimes even use violence against them. The correct approach is to understand and respect children, treat them as little friends who are beginning to have an independent consciousness, discuss things with them, treat them equally, guide them step by step, convince them with reason, and move them with emotion. Never look down on others or use your power to suppress them.

3. Suppressing children’s curiosity

Children have a strong sense of exploration. The world is full of mysteries and surprises to them. They want to ask about, play with, and touch things that adults are accustomed to and don't take seriously, and sometimes they are bound to get into trouble. If parents do not understand their curiosity and think it is nonsense, and scold, beat and abuse their children indiscriminately, it will naturally cause their dissatisfaction. Wise parents should tell their children: We also want to know what you want to know. If you tell mom and dad, we will find a way to help you answer the question. In this way, children's curiosity is satisfied and they also learn a lot of truths.

4. Repeated nagging causes boredom

When educating their children, some parents are afraid that the children will not listen, so they repeat themselves and nag endlessly. If children are exposed to this kind of "marathon" preaching environment for a long time, they will develop psychological disorders. Even if they know that what their parents say makes sense, they are not willing to listen. Therefore, when educating our children, we must be concise and respect them, leaving them room for emotional changes and thinking. When children are mentally prepared, they will be relatively easy to accept the opinions of adults.

Therefore, for the healthy growth of children, parents should be clear that the formation of children's rebellious psychology is often due to the education methods of their parents. Therefore, when it comes to educating children, parents should reflect more to avoid affecting the healthy growth of children due to unhealthy education methods.