How to deal with children's separation anxiety

Many parents suffer from separation anxiety among their children, which means they will be very anxious and uneasy when their children are separated from them. When people experience this situation, it will have many adverse effects on the human body, such as loss of appetite, inability to work, or having wild thoughts every day, etc. Faced with this situation, people need to take some measures to adjust. Below we will introduce in detail what to do if children have separation anxiety.

Separation anxiety can only be resolved through separation, but how to deal with children’s emotions caused by separation is very important. In the past, our attitude towards separation emotions often went to two extremes.

Ignore emotions

I think that since children will cry when they first go to kindergarten, you don’t have to pay any attention to them and they will stop crying once they have cried enough.

A common way to distract a crying child is to: "Look, that toy is so fun."

Reasoning: "All children have to go to kindergarten. If they don't go to kindergarten, they can't learn new things and make new friends."

Negative emotions: "Why cry? Kindergarten is so much fun." "Look, that kid doesn't cry. He's braver than you."

These methods are in fact inaction towards "separation", allowing children to deal with their emotions on their own.

Fear

In the face of the child's tears and pleas, they compromised again and again, either extending the time they spent with the child, or repeatedly nagging the child on the way to the kindergarten, or simply agreeing to "not go today, let's talk about it tomorrow."

Contrary to the previous attitude, "accepting emotions" is a concept that is now recognized by many parents. However, faced with unexpected emotional outbursts of their children, endless tears and pleas of "Mom, you can ask me to do anything, I just don't want to go to kindergarten", parents often fall into a huge sense of powerlessness, and apart from holding their children in their arms for a long time, they don't know what to do.

When we can understand the inevitability of separation anxiety, we will be able to have a more appropriate way to deal with the negative emotions that children may experience as a result. When sending your child to school, try to be clear and separate them decisively. This will be a good start.

Send to the garden:

I know you're sad to be separated from me.

But I believe you will have a smooth day in kindergarten

I will definitely pick you up on time

As mentioned above, no matter how carefully you prepare, it is difficult to avoid the heart-wrenching scene when sending your child to kindergarten: crying, wailing, hugging your mother's neck and not letting go, punching and kicking your mother... At this time, please take a deep breath!

No matter how your child behaves, you should not start a tug-of-war when sending him/her to kindergarten. Instead, you should follow the following three principles:

1. Adults should appear calm and relaxed. Your anxiety will make children more afraid of being separated from you. We know this is not easy, but it is vital.

2. Hug your child goodbye and tell him that I will pick him up in the evening. If the child refuses to let go or kicks or punches, pull the child's hands away gently but firmly without getting angry and hand him over to the teacher.

3. Leave decisively and don’t stay.