Who is better to take care of the child?

For parents, due to work reasons, they do not have enough time to take care of their children. At this time, they will find a domestic nanny or their own parents to take care of their children. But in fact, for children, childhood can affect their entire lives and even determine their future path. Therefore, family company is very important. Let's take a look at who should take care of the children.

1. Causes

Reason 1: Grandparents have more parenting experience, plenty of time and enough patience.

Reason two: Due to the blood relationship between grandparents and grandchildren, the elderly will instinctively feel loving towards their grandchildren, which provides the psychological basis for the success of intergenerational parenting.

Reason three: Most grandparents often have a child mentality, they particularly like to play with children and can easily form harmonious relationships with them. Therefore, good opportunities and conditions are created for educating children.

Reason 4: The rich life knowledge and profound life experience of grandparents provide the capital and authority for educating children. However, due to the limitations of historical conditions and the age characteristics of our grandparents, there are inevitably some unfavorable factors, and we should have a clear understanding of this.

2. Type

Type 1: Excessive attention type.

The children could have done it themselves, but their grandparents and parents took good care of them and did the work for them. Children could have developed their abilities in a normal environment, but their grandparents and parents canceled this opportunity.

Type 2: Over-supervision.

Supervise your children in everything and check their behavior regularly. This creates dependence and laziness in children, as well as distrust of adults.

Type three: severe punishment type. This method of education follows the traditional Chinese educational philosophy, criticizing children more than encouraging them, and punishing them more than rewarding them. This causes children to develop serious inferiority complex, autism or rebellious psychology.

Type 4: Democratic, warm and understanding. Some grandparents also use this method, but they are very few in number.

3. Favorable factors

Advantage 1: Many grandparents have plenty of time and energy, and are willing to spend time living with their children. They not only take care of the children's lives, provide learning conditions, and provide appropriate guidance, but also listen to the children's stories patiently. Generally speaking, it is easy to establish a harmonious relationship between grandparents and grandchildren.

Advantage 2: Grandparents have practical experience in raising and educating children. They know much more than the children’s parents about what problems children are prone to at different ages and how to deal with them.

Advantage three: The rich social experience and life insights accumulated by grandparents in long-term social practice are favorable conditions for promoting children's development and effectively dealing with children's education problems.

Advantage 4: Grandparents have a childlike nature and can easily establish harmonious relationships with their grandchildren, creating a good emotional foundation for educating children and benefiting the physical and mental health of both generations.