Parents dote on their children

For some parents, they feel like they are afraid that their children will melt if they hold them in their mouths, or afraid that they will get tired if they hold them in their hands. As long as the children want something, they will find ways to satisfy it, even if it is the stars and the moon in the sky. In fact, this is not love, this is spoiling, which has no benefits but only disadvantages for children, and sometimes it will harm children for a lifetime. Let's see the specific manifestations of parents spoiling their children.

The first way to spoil your child is to give him or her special treatment

The child has a superior status in the family and receives special care in every way. All the delicious food is reserved for him alone. Family members may not celebrate their birthdays, but his birthday is celebrated with great fanfare. In addition, he can be bought whatever toys and clothes he wants. Such children feel special, are used to feeling superior to others, have no empathy, and do not care about others.

The second way to spoil your child is to easily satisfy his or her material needs.

They buy whatever their children want and always use material things to express or make up for their love for their children. This will make children develop bad character of not cherishing things, pursuing material enjoyment, not caring about others, and having no patience and spirit of endurance.

Never satisfy a child’s material demands that should not be met; and generally do not satisfy them immediately, allowing the child to wait and be patient. Tell your children that the pursuit of life, even a small goal, will not be smooth sailing. In a positive life, there are so many things that require waiting, patience, overcoming difficulties and hard work to obtain.

The third manifestation of spoiling is laziness in life

Parents allow their children to have irregular eating and living habits, sleep late, skip meals, watch TV or surf the Internet until late at night, etc. Children who grow up like this lack ambition and curiosity, cannot be calm and focused, are distracted when doing things, and never finish what they start. Parents should strictly require their children to live a regular life. Specifically: Cultivate children's orderly living and eating habits. Help your children develop the habit of watching TV, surfing the Internet and sleeping on time in moderation.

The fourth way to spoil your child is to not let him work

When talking about the issue of children's labor, some parents actually said: "It's not worth the trouble to ask him to do things, I might as well do it for him." Therefore, children aged four or five cannot put on shoes and clothes by themselves. Children in elementary school and even middle school do not do any housework. They do not understand the joy of labor and the responsibility to help their parents reduce the burden. The way to prevent and correct it is to educate and encourage children to do their own things. Parents should give timely affirmation and praise after the children have done their work, create a pleasant atmosphere for labor, and often do things happily with their children.

The fifth way of doting is to take care of everything for you.

Many parents treat their children as "little emperors", doting on them, pampering them, and being willing to be their nannies and slaves, taking care of everything in their lives. Parents often organize the students' daily necessities and study supplies. The result is that children lack love, lose self-confidence, and develop bad personalities such as dependence, laziness and cowardice. Parents should encourage and arrange their children to do things within their abilities. Let him put on his shoes and clothes by himself, and organize his toys and school supplies. This not only cultivated his work habits and self-reliance, but also enhanced his sense of responsibility and self-confidence.