What to do if your child has too much self-esteem

Having self-esteem is a good thing, and children's self-esteem should be cultivated from an early age. If your child is timid and inferior from an early age, then when he grows up, it is likely that the child will find it difficult to integrate into this society, or he will not dare to do anything and it will be difficult for him to achieve anything. However, it is not good if the self-esteem is too strong. Such children tend to be aggressive when they grow up and do things according to their own thoughts.

So, how can we tell whether our children have a tendency to be inferior?

The following daily behavior characteristics can provide you with some reference:

1. He cares a lot about what others think of him, and is very likely to compromise once others question or criticize his views.

2. Care a lot about your appearance and dressing, thinking that this is the only way to attract others.

3. Feeling uncomfortable when being praised by others and not knowing how to respond.

4. Even if you have done nothing wrong, once others are angry, you can't help but want to apologize.

This scale was compiled by American psychologist Rosenberg and is suitable for children in grades three and four and above. It is best for the children to answer the questions themselves.

The higher the score on the scale, the higher the level of self-confidence and the more optimistic and positive one is; conversely, the lower the level of self-confidence, the more likely one is to feel inferior.

Children in grades 5, 6 to 8, 9 are sensitive and fragile, and their self-esteem is inherently stronger than at other ages. Therefore, parents must pay attention to protecting their children's self-esteem when communicating with them.

The first step is to describe the child's behavior and results objectively, without saying good or bad, and without criticism;

The second step is to encourage children to talk about their own ideas and their own evaluation of events and behaviors;

The third step is to guide children to think about better solutions and ways to improve;

The fourth step is to express your own suggestions from a parent's perspective and guide your children to make the best choice.

In this way, children will be more willing to accept their parents' education and guidance.