What to do if your 12-year-old child is rebellious

After children reach puberty, their bodies gradually mature and many children are spoiled too much, so they lack the awareness of distinguishing right from wrong. Rebellion during adolescence is also a very normal phenomenon. As long as parents guide and educate their children patiently, I believe their children will soon understand right from wrong. However, when it comes to educating children, parents must guide them as friends.

Human development follows certain rules, and each generation should be better than the previous one. Parents raise their children based on a dual understanding of themselves and their children, and according to the laws of heredity and variation. Parents should be good teachers and friends to their children. Similarly, teachers have to be parents. They also had their youth and rebellious behavior. If parents or teachers can look back on their own youth and remember how they longed for independence and felt unbothered by the constraints, they will not easily "go against" their children's "rebellion" based on the attitude of "do not do to others what you do not want others to do to you". Instead, they will teach their children with their own growth experiences, walk with their children, and spend those beautiful youthful years together.

Assimilation and gentleness should be the most common way for children to deal with their relationship with the surrounding environment during their growth, and it is also the most powerful ideological weapon for parents when facing their children's rebellious behavior. It would be best if parents could grasp their children's psychological dynamics and give appropriate advice or suggestions, strive to change their children's concepts, and the children could absorb them smoothly and achieve the assimilation goal. However, if the child is unable to understand the parents, or even becomes more rebellious, the parents should appropriately accommodate the child and analyze the real reasons behind his rebellious behavior so as to achieve timely communication and resolve the issue smoothly, thus turning hostility into friendship.

The best way to educate adolescent rebellion, or the highest state and pursuit, is to do nothing and cultivate children's independent spirit. The reason why children are rebellious is that they feel that they have grown up but are still subject to the discipline and restrictions of their parents and teachers, and they are very unhappy. If the adults at this time are not good at learning new things, coupled with the natural generation gap, the children will be even more unwilling or even disdainful to obey their parents. Instead of doing this, as long as it is not too extreme, it is better to let the children face it by themselves, and parents can observe secretly without showing their feelings, and then generously help them when they encounter difficulties and seek help. This will not only cultivate the ability of children to solve problems independently, but also make them happy to adapt naturally. What's the best of both worlds? What's more, the relationship between parents and children or the friendship between teachers and students is further strengthened. Isn't it "doing nothing"?

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