What to do if your child is afraid of going to school

When we were young, we probably didn’t want to go to school, because going to school not only meant getting out of the warm bed and running to school even in the cold winter, but also meant endless homework waiting for us every day. Who doesn’t want to play every day? But some things are often beyond our control. In order to become a better self, we must go to school. But some children are very afraid of going to school. What should we do at this time?

"School phobia" has probably been planted in some children's hearts since the first day of school. We can see it when they dawdle or find various excuses to delay going to school. Some children simply express it: they cry and make a fuss, or shout "I don't want to go to school". Some children really can't go to school, because at this time they either have a cold, fever, sweating, or headache, nausea, stomachache, or even vomiting. This is certainly not pretended, but they are really sick. This is "excessive anxiety disorder", and for children aged six or seven who are about to go to school, it is "school phobia". Children have relied on their parents since childhood. Once they leave, even if it is only temporarily or in a change of environment, they will feel nervous and uneasy because they don't know what will happen. In the past, their parents told them and helped them solve some problems in life, but now they have to rely on themselves completely, and they don't know what they can do or where to start.

1. Let children feel that learning is simple

Children are reluctant to go to school. Most children have one thing in common: poor academic performance. Parents can easily see that children who are reluctant to go to school have this commonality: poor academic performance, fear of learning, and being disliked by teachers. They are regarded as poor students who are lagging behind in the eyes of their classmates, and suffer psychological blows. Parents need to help their children, improve their learning confidence, and make them feel that learning is simple and they can also get good grades.

2. Encourage and praise your children’s learning

When children are studying, parents should give them more guidance and praise their children's progress. Children will be more willing to do things that their parents praise them for. Many parents usually lack praise for their children. Praising children more is very helpful for their enthusiasm. Children are not opposed to going to school and studying if parents encourage them more.

Children don't want to go to school and need parents to drag them

3. Communicate the reasons with your child

There are actually reasons why children want to go to school or are afraid of going to school. Nothing happens without reason. Especially when children's thoughts are simpler, parents can more easily find out the direct reasons why children don't want to go to school or are afraid of going to school. After parents understand through communication, children will no longer have concerns and will go to school well.

4. Train children's interest in learning

Parents with good academic performance may find that children with good academic performance feel that learning is more of a pleasure. They do not think of difficult problems as a problem but how to solve them. They feel more accomplished and confident after solving them. Many children worry about being too difficult when they encounter difficult problems, but children with good academic performance are just the opposite. Parents should cultivate their children's interest in learning and let them find fun in learning. Then they will no longer be afraid of going to school.

1. Give realistic expectations. Don’t expect your children to become scientists, lawyers, etc. in the future. Let them realize that everyone has special talents and can make their own way.

2. Share with each other Parents should spend more time caring for their children and share their joys and worries with them.

3. Set an example and convey the proper attitude towards life to your children.

4. Be prepared to learn

Psychological preparation: When children are about to enter kindergarten, primary school or secondary school, parents can take them to school to let them understand the learning environment, get to know the teachers and become familiar with the learning situation.

5. Cooperate with teachers and know how to appreciate them. Parents should not belittle teachers in front of their children or have conflicts with teachers. Otherwise, children will look down on teachers, which will cause learning obstacles for children. Parents should communicate more with teachers to enhance mutual understanding and find effective methods suitable for their children's learning.

6. Focus on learning. Provide children with a quiet environment and time to read; do not disturb children's reading; make a rough schedule and pay attention to their learning progress. Parents should explain effective practice methods step by step; demonstrate first, then let the child do it once, correct any bad parts on the spot, and then let the child do it again independently; practice intensively, but each practice time should not be too long; correct mistakes in time; pay attention to preview and regular review.