What to do if your two-year-old child is disobedient

Babies will enter a rebellious period after they are one year old. They will often be disobedient, become very willful, and even say no to some things. As a parent, you must be patient and give correct guidance so that things can go smoothly. If you do not teach in time, the child will become disobedient and even rebellious.

The word "rebel" contains the meaning of "resist". Babies are not resisting without reason. In fact, they are insisting on their own opinions. If these claims are realized, it will be very important for the baby to establish his "self".

If you carefully observe the baby's behavior in this state, you will understand that this is a sign of the baby's self-assertion. For example, wanting to put on one's own shoes, wanting to use one's own chopsticks, wanting to wash one's own dishes, etc., most of them insist on their own ideas. However, a 2-year-old baby, whose language expression ability is quite poor, can only say "no" and "do it yourself", and it is difficult for him to accurately convey his ideas to his parents, and he may be mistakenly regarded as "rebellious" or "willful".

Why are children the most "disobedient" at the age of 2?

When people describe things related to children, the word they usually use is "cute". Even children who like to destroy things will be kindly called "naughty" or "mischievous" by their parents. However, in the UK, people use "terrible" to describe two-year-old children. Today, "terrible twos" has become a fixed expression in English. The reason why children of this age are scary is that they begin to show different characteristics from the past. They are very difficult to deal with, like to go against others, and have a tendency to rebel in everything. Therefore, some early childhood education experts call this stage "the first adolescence of life", generally referring to the period between one and a half and three years old.

Before the age of 2, children are in a period of rapid physical growth, learning to eat, drink, defecate, urinate, crawl, sit, stand, walk, listen and speak, and their desires are basically in sync with their parents' wishes. After the age of 2, children's self-awareness begins to emerge and they have the urge to make independent choices. However, due to their inability to express themselves with words like adults, they can only show their emotions on their faces. They often rebel against adults' decisions: they refuse to put on more clothes when it's cold, they want to run outside on rainy days, they skip meals to watch cartoons, and they insist on buying more cars even though there are many cars at home... In the process of children "asking for independence", you will encounter the following situations: they refuse their parents' requests when they are angry and go against adults; they ignore their parents and don't want their parents to hug or be intimate with them; they don't stay with their parents and run away from them; they lie on the ground and roll around when their demands are not met.

Secondly, you can exchange "conditions" with your children on an equal basis. If the child insists on going out on a windy day but does not want to wear a hat, the parents can say to the child: "Mom has agreed to take you out, so shouldn't you also agree to wear a hat for us?" Giving children respect also teaches them to respect others, which is killing two birds with one stone.

Finally, parents should learn to compromise. If a child’s behavior is inconsistent with the parents’ wishes, but the child will not be in danger, it is best to let the child make his or her own decisions. There is no need for parents to interfere.

Let your child express his or her requests verbally, but do not indulge his or her bad habits. If you encounter a child making a fuss and asking for cake in a supermarket, don't let him succeed because of the eyes of people around him. You can take him out and tell him in calm language: "Because you behaved so poorly, Mom can't buy you cake. If you want to eat cake, you should tell Mom." Gradually, the child will learn to express his thoughts in words. If a child throws a tantrum, deal with it calmly. Ignore him, don't try to coax him, or meet his unreasonable demands without principles. After many attempts, the child will realize that throwing a tantrum will not get the parents to "compromise" and will not take such action in the future.