Is a three and a half year old child in the rebellious period?

Three and a half year old babies are in the lively and rebellious period. Children in this period are often disobedient, and some children will even resist. Most parents are helpless in the face of their children's rebelliousness and usually resort to scolding. In fact, if parents use unscientific methods to educate their children in their infancy, it will cause certain harm to the children's physical and mental health.

Uncover the reasons why children rebel

(1) The necessary process for children’s growth and development

As the baby grows and develops, various aspects of the body function gradually mature, the baby's physique also develops rapidly. At this time, the baby can do many trivial things in daily life. They also begin to extremely desire to have their own independent activity space, to do what they want, and to constantly try some things that they find new and strange. On the one hand, the child begins to mature mentally, but on the other hand, the parents have not yet begun to realize the child's development and growth, and still stand from the perspective of taking care of everything for the baby. Parents may be afraid that the child is still young and does not know how to protect themselves, so when they see the baby's behavior, they put many obstructions and restrictions on it. It is conceivable that the baby will have resistance.

(2) The baby begins to develop a sense of self

In the early stages, babies may not know what "their own wishes" and "other people's wishes" are, so many times they will do whatever their parents say. When the baby reaches the age of two or three, the baby's self-awareness begins to strengthen, and he begins to understand what others want him to do and what he wants to do. Therefore, when the child is just forming this kind of thinking, the baby's attitude towards expressing himself is also extremely intense, and he becomes extremely resistant to things he doesn't want to do. When a baby's self-awareness conflicts with the norms and requirements of adults, the baby will feel frustrated, which will eventually lead to rebellious behavior.

(3) The baby’s ability to “control his/her emotions” is still weak

Babies aged two or three have never experienced anything and do not understand what self-emotional control is. Once their demands are not met, they will express themselves without any concealment. Usually crying and making noise are the best ways for babies to vent. When parents face their children's unreasonable behavior, they will think that their children are disobedient and rebellious, so they begin to stop and oppose them. Once the children and their parents are in opposition, the children will show "resistance".

How to deal with children's rebellious behavior?

(1) Cause tracing method

It is an inevitable stage for children to rebel in their growth and development. Parents must treat it rationally and not blindly stop or oppress them, let alone resort to beating or scolding. This is a very stupid method. Not only will it fail to change the child's rebellious behavior, it will also seriously affect the child's healthy growth. Therefore, when parents face their children's disobedience, they should understand the reasons behind their children's disobedience, so that they can "prescribe the right medicine" and "cure the disease"!

(2) Appropriate laissez-faire approach

When children reach a certain age, they will begin to like saying "no" to their parents. This is the first step for them to establish their self-esteem and self-esteem. The reason is nothing more than to demand equal status with adults, so that they can do what they like instead of just following their parents' orders. At this time, children have their own thoughts and ideas. What parents should do is to respect their children's ideas and think more from their perspective. If the children's behavior and ideas do not involve safety issues or principle issues, parents can let their children do what they want. Parents can do this not only to make their children happy, but also to make themselves feel more at ease and less "worrying"!

(3) Avoid the “forcing growth” approach

It is understandable that many parents hope their children will become successful, but everything must be based on the child's actual situation and respect the child's physical and mental development. What parents ask their children to do should be reasonable. Parents should strictly require their children to do what the children can accomplish. Parents should not force their children to do things that are within their abilities or that they do not want to do. Otherwise, it will backfire and cause irreparable harm to the children.

(4) Encourage Tolerance Law

When parents find that their children are always disobedient and rebellious, in addition to realizing that this is a normal stage of the child's psychological development, parents should adopt scientific coping methods instead of turning a blind eye, which will really turn the child into a bad child. When facing children's rebellion, parents should give their babies more tolerance, care and communication than before. Listen patiently to your baby's inner thoughts, understand your baby's needs, ask your baby what he thinks, why he does this, and how to minimize your baby's rebelliousness and rejection of his parents.

(5) Avoid the “pampering and indulgence of children” approach

It is normal for babies to like to say "no" to their parents, but if you leave it alone or give in to their every move, they will develop a willful and arrogant character. Therefore, as parents, for those willful babies who always use sarcasm to achieve their unreasonable demands, we should: (1) calmly reason with them, introduce relevant knowledge, explain why their demands cannot be met, and curb their willful and stubborn behavior. (2) Try to divert your baby’s attention by using something else that interests him more so that he will give up the unreasonable request. (3) If persuasion is ineffective, parents should clearly state their attitude: unreasonable demands will not be met no matter how much the child makes a fuss. Then parents should immediately walk away and use the cold treatment method to put an end to the child’s unreasonable demands.

As the baby grows older, it is normal for him to have rebellious behavior. Parents do not need to worry too much at this time, but they should pay attention to how they deal with their children's rebelliousness. Only when parents understand their baby's behavior can they cultivate their baby's abilities in a targeted way and ensure their baby's healthy growth.