How to educate a child who hits others

Many parents will find in their lives that their babies always exhibit aggressive behavior. Aggressive behavior is a very bad behavior. It will allow children to express themselves through this behavior, and even make the baby think that this behavior is an important way to express emotions. As parents, you need to guide them in time and tell them that this behavior is incorrect, and slowly guide them back.

How to educate a child who hits others

In fact, babies hit people just to express their feelings in this way. This behavior is called aggressive behavior (or invasive behavior), which is often a common behavior among children around two years old, especially boys. It can also be said to be a characteristic of children of this age group and is a very important part of children's social development.

Humans are born with an inherent tendency to attack. For example, when a baby is angry or has an emotional outburst, he will throw things on the ground; when he wants to drink water and his mother comes a few minutes late, the baby will push the water bottle away...With the physical and psychological development, if guided correctly, the aggressive tendency can be transformed into strength in the growth process, and into positive qualities such as patience and perseverance.

What is aggressive behavior?

Aggressive behavior can be divided into two categories: hostile aggression and instrumental aggression. Hostile aggression refers to behavior that intentionally harms others; instrumental aggression refers to behavior that harms others in order to achieve certain non-aggressive purposes. For example, if Dandan intentionally hits another baby to make him cry, this is "hostile aggression"; if Dandan hits him in the process of fighting for a toy, it is "instrumental aggression."

When a dispute arises or when demonstrating to their parents to achieve a certain goal, two or three-year-old babies usually kick or hit their opponents. As they get older, the physical attacks become less frequent and are replaced by teasing, taunting, bad words or nicknames. Babies around 3 years old are unable to judge the intentions of others, and simply regard people and things that make them feel uncomfortable as opponents.

Why do children of this age love to hit others? There are many reasons:

1. Some factors of growth and development lead to hitting

1. The baby's self-awareness begins to sprout, and "I" is the first thing he puts in everything. I don't want anything that doesn't suit my taste and I won't do it, so I start to "eliminate" the things I don't want and don't like. This is beating.

2. Poor skills in interacting with children. He wants something and people don't give it to him, and he doesn't know how to "ask for it", so he hits people.

3. Poor language expression ability. If he fails to express his thoughts and demands clearly, or others don't follow his instructions and he gets upset, he will hit others.

4. Likes to watch other children cry after being beaten and lacks sympathy.

5. I find it funny to watch movies or TV shows where adults beat other people, so I imitate them.

6. Seek attention. When children do good things, they often don't get enough attention, but they really want to be noticed. When you don’t get attention, you have to do some stronger “actions”: hitting, to attract attention.

2. Physical and environmental changes lead to assaults

1. Some physiological factors lead to irritability. For example , when one is hungry, tired, sick, or has teething discomfort, one will hit others more often.

2. Big changes in life, difficult to adapt. For example, relocation, changing nannies, going to kindergarten, etc. I didn't know what was going on and I couldn't express myself, so I just waved my arms around aimlessly.